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anonymous
writes:Ok so right to it. My ex gf's ex husband is interested in dating me and I want to date him. Him and her have 3 children and he's a good father. He sees his children almost everyday and her also because the children live with her. How should we go about this? My ex gf doesn't know I've even met him. Him and me met at church. It's not like either of us are cheating because we're both single. It's just awkward since she's his ex wife and mother of his children and I'm her ex gf. We don't know how to go about dating without causing an uproar for his children and her. tnx bunches
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): be honesr, is this is just one more way to irritate your former friend?
She, and you, were once good friends. You know what is important to her. And you know this will really push her buttons. Your friendship with her has ended. But your proposed course of action will just ramp up the toxicity between the two of you.
And he too knows his act will open up
the wounds between his ex and himself. Such tension can't be good for the children in the middle of this potention
melee.
And he likes seeing his children. So pretty soon after the relationship starts you will start feeling resentment over how much time he spends with her.
Then when you and he breakup the bad blood and resentment will spill out into the open again.
Find another guy, this relationship has everything against it already.
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reader, Snowe +, writes (23 February 2011):
This is a bad idea all around. Those poor kids. You are young enough to stray away from "familiar relationships" that are full of drama and past baggage. You need to find someone new and create your own life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2011): there is no way that you two can dated without her making it an issue, make sure the kids are alright by it and the mother will come around when she sees that the kids dont mind, even if she doesnt come around shes an ex... who cares lol
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