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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:so me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 6 mths now. His best friend just so happens to be the girl i grew up with, an used to be best friends with. we are no longer friends because she slept with alot of my boyfriends in the past an have not spoke to eachother in about 2 years. But even tho i dont like her, that dosent give me the right to tell my bf not to be friends with her, cause the were friends before i even met him. But that was my thinking before, its changed a little now since i caught him hanging out with her after he lied to me about it, and i was told by someone (not a reliable sorce) that they were making out.i turst my bf still, i dont think it really happened.... so...my question is, what do i do about this??? is it wrong for me to tell him not to hang out with her?? its her i dont trust or like, not him..but a part of me just dosent like the fact that i would be allowing them to hang out with her knowing that she might try to do stuff with my man! help!! i dont know what to do..
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2008): Why weren't they a reliable source?
Since you KNOW how that girl is, you should be worried. You seriously need to tell him about your history with her. Ask him if you are important enough to him to drop her and stop being his friend.
Seriously. If he wants a relationship with you, he will understand. He would be more than happy to drop her. If not, I don't see why you should continue being with someone who doesn't value you.
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reader, xKx__  +, writes (3 October 2008):
I think that when you are in a relationship with someone, you should be putting them first. But they should be reciprocating that as well. Have you told him why you aren't friends with that girl anymore? If you have and he is still deciding to be friends with her, I would totally get out of that while you still can, because she's probably going to try and do the same thing, and if you mean as much as you should to your man he should be willing to put you first and what you feel comfortable with..
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