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writes:so my ex and i have started to rekindle things a bit. we have been broken up for about 4 months and i know through friends that he had a brief girlfriend sometime during the time we were broken up. i cant help but think about that other relationship he had. i know we both have the right to do what we want while we were apart. we havent talked about it but i have the tempation to ask about her. i wonder things like if he "loved" her and how serious they were. is it better that i just focus on now and not know details about when we were broken up?
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reader, KC12 +, writes (21 November 2013):
 Just focus on "NOW" and the fact that he is with you now, and loves you.
It's unhealthy to dwell on the past, and who he was with during your break. I'm with everyone else that says that girl was just a rebound.
Obviously, he's with you now and loves you. Don't dwell on some "fling" he had when you two were apart. Aparently, she doesn't matter to him, so she shouldn't matter to you either.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (21 November 2013):
 Cerberus is correct if he did not leave you for her and she was just filler it was rebound and you are better off letting it go and NOT worrying about it.
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reader, baby-it's-you  +, writes (21 November 2013):
I've experienced the same thing with my ex-boyfriend. I wanted to know every detail about his short 'relationship' with that other girl. The thing is, I really got obsessed about it and altough I'm usually not a jealous type of girl it made me jealous. I couldn't trust him anymore. It felt to me as if he had been unfaithful to me even though it all happened during our break-up. Needless to say we broke-up again. Of course, you and I are different persons and you can react in a total different way then I did. But I think it's better not to worry about any relationship he had during your break-up. What matters now is that he chose to be with you. Whatever relationship he had with that other girl, it didn't work out in the end. It was probably nothing more that a rebound while he couldn't forget about you. But that's just my experience. Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2013): It was just a rebound OP, unless he was developing that relationship while he was with you.
Rebounds mean nothing. Goolge the term if you need to. It's just a person who fills the void of the ex and helps that person realize that no one can fill that void only the ex, it's called a rebound then because he's rebounded off her and back to you.
Let it go.
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