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writes:Sorry for the repost but i really need advice on this ...So heres the deal, ive posted on cupid before regarding the breakup from my ex after nearly 5 yrs and also when she met a new guy (a mate) within 2 weeks of the breakup. 2 months have now gone since all of this started and im feeling like im starting to move on however my 3rd post on cupid was about my ex and her sidekick toying with my emotions by any means they felt was fun. Now it hurt because over that 5 years my ex was never like this (never contacted me to basically call me names one example of their behaviour) and im a very sensitive and caring guy and i feel like ive been analysing their relationship too much which has prevented me from moving on such as "was she seeing this guy before she broke up with me?, and why does she feel the need to hurt me as it was a civil breakup and surely the 5 years meant something to her?"Well enough's enough and i finally took all i could the other night. Im trying to move on and so should they be but they purely just cant stop thinking about me and ways to make me feel down. Ive been trying so hard to rise above it but its getting so serious now that im contacting a solictor for legal advice for harrasment and emotional stress. Would it be harsh to take it to the courts if need be? or does this sound like a phase where my ex is perhaps rebounded or her head is in two minds right now. Her new guy is an idiot im afraid and always has been so i expect that he's influencing some of this (loading the bullets, and she's firing the gun)I have good memorys of her and it has to end as those memorys which lie in the past are being dug up and turned into bad ones. I want her to stop and realise the past has gone, wake up and be thankful that for 5 years we were an item and yer it wasn't meant to be as she actually admitted when we broke up that this would be the case but she's done everything against what she said. So i feel the only way i can prevent affecting my life is to take it to the ultimate level. Thanks for reading and any advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): Get some individual counselling so you have someone who can listen and support you and ask the right questions so you think differently which will give you a different perspective on this whole mess.
Continue the legal action; this new guy sounds like a bully and bullies dont' change and the numbers of bullies into todays world is more populated with sociopathic minded individuals so maybe the new guy needs a reality slap upside his self motivated head.
Remember: Sociopaths feel no remorse and will use others as an end to their means and are very talented at convincing others to do things they wouldn't "normally" be found doing.
Sociopaths derive "pleasure" from the misery of others; a form of control as they are well aware on how to cause pain and suffering in others and have been doing so since the age of four years; relatively. Kid you not.
Sociopaths pick their targets and very rarely will let them out of their sites. Most people are unaware that such a Bully is in fact, a sociopath.
Cut the Sociopath out of your life. The best revenge against a sociopath is to live a happy, productive life.
Take Care and hang in there.
*hugs*
Happy Holidays Dude.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (19 December 2006):
 By all means get a restraining order against them both. If they continue the harassment then call the police and press charges. They will stop this nonsense when they find out how serious you are. They both sound like nutcases. Good luck.
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