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writes: I am confussed, My boyfirend of eight months got a one night stand pregnant. This did happen before we got together... we hooked up in April and in May the young lady calls him and tell him that she was 1 month pregnant..... At 1st it did not bother me until three days ago when the baby was born...... I don't know what to think, do, or feel!During our eight month realationship things started to get a little shady. I live in FL and my BF lives in NC. Who knows what he can be doing while Im in FL and he's in NC I don't have no reason to believe that he is cheating....When I go home to visit FL he makes plans and never go through with them, that really fustrate me, we dont see each other for about two-three weeks at any given time and sometimes a month...... So when I come home I expect to spend time with him and he don't realize that...... EXAMPLE... I went home to visit in July and August everytime I went home he made his little plans and broke them!! In between that he would come to FL to visit me and spend the weekend with me but I think that he does it to keep the peace or trying to "make UP"After so many broken promises I would tell him a peace of my mind and he would apologize and the next time I come home he would go through with his plan! Then it started back up again and then I told him a peace of my mind Thanksgiving when he mad a plan and broke it.......... But this argument was horrible I made him cry, sorry, plead, and I guess come to his senses. I was back in NC visting once again The first week in December he made his plan and went through!!!!!We had a little dis agreement the day before I left for FL and know he only calls me when he have to say something or need something... He dont call like he use to through out the day to say hello or to have small talkSo NOW THE BABY IS HERE he has been at the hospital all day with the baby and his baby mother. He even cancelled some very important meetings to sit at the hospital with the baby and the young lady..... By him doing this I am already thinking he will not be able to juggle a Realtionship/GF, baby, baby mother, job, nothing. So I am feeling really sad and I dont know if I should end the realationship he went two days without calling me and if he do call he need me to do something!!!! When he decide to call he talk three mins...... and say I will call you back and never do????So I dont want my BF to be around his baby mother the way he is because one thing could lead to another..I dont know what to do PLEASE SUGGEST!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2006): ok four words "short story, short answer" and i would personally stay with him, but im a guy so im on the other side, but i think the ma'am on the bottom had a good idea.
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reader, JLO22 +, writes (19 December 2006):
JLO22 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks guys.... The Baby is his DNA came back yesterday..... I will have a one on one with him and talk to him about the problem at hand.
To be honest I am tired of talking and pleading with him. It only works for a couple of weeks then he his back to his old ways.
He say he is stressed out with all that he is going through right know. I tell him I am here for him and he dont have to crawl in his shell when he is going through.
To protect my self I am leavinn him ALONE, I made up my mind and I will and can do this.
THANKS GUYS
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): This situation is going to lead to a lot of pain. Triangle never work! I know! I have been a part of one and i to walk away. My partner had a child with his ex (i know your's is different in that it was a one night stand) and she only lived 200 yards away!!! It drove me mad, i had to get away!
This will lead to a life of pain.
Is it his for definate?
I think you know in your heart that this guy is not for you. He is using you. Makes promises and never keeps them.
For your own sake and sanity leave him. There are plenty of lovely guys out there. Get one that treat you as you so deserve.
Take care
xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): hiya i have just read your question and i am quite concerned really.
for 1.. the baby may not even be his .. if she had a one night stand with him.. who else has she been with?
for 2.. your boyfriend doesnt seem to want to communicate with you
for 3.. if hes been to see the baby he obviously wants to be involved with the child
to be honest my dear, i would leave the boyfriend and get on with your life
i think hes stringin you along, and your right it probably will lead to something else in the future
your better off without him, you don't need a love triangle and a baby!
i don't mean to sound so blunt, sorry!
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reader, Astrid  +, writes (19 December 2006):
 I think this is a very hard time for your relationship as your boyfriend seems like he's to behave as a responsible father who cares after his baby which from my point of view is very nice of him, though u both must talk, he cannot leave you alone anytime because of his baby or work, I think he is tking u for granted but u must tell him if he doesn0t leave more time for caring about your emotional needs and goes on letting you down or not sharing his baby experience and time with you you will have to walk away as this situation is causing you too much pain.
Good luck and plese be strong
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