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writes:It started when i was 12 (atleast i think). I am now 14 and going into highschool. I moved in with my dad and step-mom when i was 7. And we moved to another house when i was 8. It started after my grandfather killed himself after my cousin now 16, told my grandmother that he was touching her in her sleep. We slept in the same bed so he could have touched me too for all i know. I first found out when in middle school. I woke up and got ready for school one morning, but was done early so i layed on the couch and took a nap before we left. My dad came and sat at the far end picked my feet up and layed them on his lap. I fell asleep after that but woke back up. Later that week me and him went to see a movie. While at the movies he kept his hand between my thighs (like you would do to a wife or girlfriend) I quickly changed positions to my feet up on the seat. Later after the movie on the drive back he asked me if the morning i was on the couch if i felt anything. I said no because i didnt. He then told me that he did touch me and that it was wrong and stupid and he would never do it again. He then told me not to tell my step- mom because it would just start trouble. So i didnt.But, he didnt stop. Two or three nights i've woken to him touching and rubbing my back end and front. I would quickly change positions and he would stop and leave. But, he came back after i fell asleep because i woke back up again and felt it.I don't want to tell my step- mom because right now shes the best thing thats happened to me. I dont want to lose her. But i know that if they get divorsed i could always choose where i want to live. But if i did it would hurt his feelings. But i also don't want to stay with him to endure more molestation.I dread every night that i have to go to sleep. I stay up hours till 2 in the morning. To where im too tired to stay awake or wake up during what he would do. I even tried shutting my door sometimes to just make me feel better. But, they obviously don't want me to have privacy because they threaten to take the door off the henges if i close it again. I practically beg and plead to stay the night at my grandmothers (Step-moms mom) To where i cry to stay. I dont know what to do please help!-Dakota
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 August 2010):
 You are a child and your dad is doing bad things..Dont worry about your dad he is in the wrong. Tell an adult, any adult..or call 911
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reader, charlie p  +, writes (1 August 2010):
It's absolutely vital that you tell your step mother. It's understandable that you might be worried about doing this, but you must. If you do, you will be amazed at how well she will protect you. You mustn't worry about 'hurting you dads feelings', they arent important in this case. you must MUST tell your stepmother immediately, this very day! not later, not tommorrow, this minute. it will be hard, but just do it quickly, just take the plunge and be brave, its the right thing to do. If you do not, you will put yourself in danger. possibly physically, but most certainly psycologically. it may give you issues if it continues, which it will unless you tell your stepmother now. in the case of divorce, you will live with your stepmother, you will not live with your father.dakota, PLEASE respond and let us know what you do. please tell your stepmother right now.
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reader, MAX D  +, writes (1 August 2010):
 Dakota you must get help straight away,please do not wait a moment longer,you have to talk adult,if you have to go to you nearst policestation also you shiould contact childline and they will help you.It is not safe for you to stay in that envirment,talk to your stepmother and she will help you please do it today,I understand that you think the world of your stepmother,by telling her about what is going on will only bring you closer with her and you will be supprised how supportive she wil.Please let me know how things have worked out take care and please please tell someone TODAY. Max D.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 August 2010): you need to tell your teeacher or your best friend's mum or both, you need to tell a responsible adult who you are close to.
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reader, msvee +, writes (1 August 2010):
 He needs to see a psychologist. No child should be touched so appropriately by a parent or any adult. You can't just continue letting him do this. Confronting him is a risk because you cannot be sure how he will react, especially if you two will be alone. Tell an adult that trusts you and will make sure he does not continue on with this.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (1 August 2010):
Dakota,
Where is your real mom? and if your granfather was your dads dad honey, thats why he is touching you! he too was molested by his own father your granfather. and you need to put a stop to it and tell someone you can trust and who will listen to you he is a sick man you are his daughter, and it aint right. he is not going to stop and you should not have to worry about that man your father coming into your room at night! and touching you that is not a father he is a very sick sick man who does not look at you as his daughter and he tells you to not tell your step mom, that is so he can keep doing it. and yes so he wont go to jail either and that is where he needs to be hes going to do it to someone else if he hasn't already? please break the cycle of his sickness and get him the help he so dearly needs but mostly and most importantly you need to take care of you and put a stop to it now. please don't tell him what you are going to do because if he gets scared he can hurt you bad please go talk to your preist your school counselor not your step mom because she might be in denighal and not believe you tell one of your best friends mom and dad they will help you i promise you! don't tell gramma because she knew that her husband did it too? so she might be in denighal too! please get some help if you want to talk to me go to my site! and i will give you my phone number ok i care!!!!
Very Worried about you!!
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reader, QueenAM +, writes (1 August 2010):
You definitely need to tell an adult you trust. It can be a teacher, a friend's parent, someone at your church/community organization. Telling someone will be the beginning of your help. You can tell your stepmom, but if you are uncertain of how she will respond, then don't. It will take courage to tell someone, but you have to do it. No one can help you if no one knows. Stay strong :)
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reader, SirenaBlusera  +, writes (1 August 2010):
 You need to tell someone- ANY adult- what your father is doing to you. He's telling you not to tell anyone so that he can get away with this... you shouldn't have to endure this abuse. If your parents do divorce, and you choose to live with your step-mom... your dad should have thought about that before he abused you! Where is your biological mom? Have you told her? You must tell an adult, so that they can protect you. If they won't listen, then call Child Protective Services, or the police. This has GOT to stop... it's not your fault and no child should endure this.
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