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writes:my bro and his girlfriend were together for 1 yr. they texts more than 24hrs although they just came back from date, thanks to that my bro sleeps every 2am. yesterday they posted a photo of them kissing together on fb, i was really shocked..i mean they're just 14yrs old and they're having relationship like "adult style"(you know what i mean)..also his girifriend is such a slut; she kept wanting him to have sex with her, get pregnant then get marry through text message. i heard that her parents agreed about it too.my mom was furious about this topic, so she talked to her parents. they said"so what!? they love each other so much, nowadays couple can marry at age 16-18. if our daughter wants to get pregnant now we respect her opinion!!"omg!!even her parents as crazy as her; letting their own daughter ger pregnant...my parents and i persuaded my bro to break up, he simply won't listen. once my bro told me 'that's because i don't understand the modern days of relationship and said virgins aren't cool.i had a boyfriend at age 15, but not that type of relationship which my bro had. he respects me and he don't do things which displease me.there's nothing i can do..i just let time help this situation.can someone help me to tear my bro apart from this slut and correct her parents' crazy idea??ps:i'm 18 and i do know the modern days of relationship so don't tell me that i'm conservative or other stuffs like 'i agree with your bro'
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): I agree your brother is behaving like an idiot, we call that pussy whipped here in the states. It's not modern at all what he is doing, but if your country is like ours our tax dollars pay for children to breed out of wedlock, we pay them with food stamps, free hospital care, etc....because in short they can't pay the bills, so someone else get's those costs tacked on to their hospital bill so their insurance company has to pay more and the insurance rates get raised and it just gets passed on and hurts ALL of society...so this is much bigger than your 15 year old brother's "decision".
Since he is still living under your parents roof and won't abide by their rules, I think you should have a talk with your parents. They need to pack him a bag with only his basic clothing needs, some bus fare and tell him to get out. Let him move in with her parents, let's give them all a dose of reality. Your parents are sending a clear message that they will not support this financially, he is a spoiled brat and is completely unrealistic as to who ends up caring for the children of children, it's their parents. So unfair to all concerned, especially the kids they bring into the world, they pay the most for foolish bad decision making.
I feel for you, but this isn't your problem to solve....give your parent's your blessing to kick him out and then show him some tough love.
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reader, Jeseh.  +, writes (12 July 2010):
 Try to give them advice,talk to them and explain the dangers of being pregnant at 15 & show them the importance of finishing school.
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reader, fedup123  +, writes (12 July 2010):
hey,
i can understand your frustration with this situation as it is very difficult watching one of your family members being sucked into traps like this.
yes, i agree it's a bit of a silly idea to want to marry and get pregnant at the age of 14 but, at the end of the day, your brother will only resent you for meddling in his relationships. yes he's young but it's very unlikely he's going to listen to any advice you give him, especially at that age as teenagers tend to rebel against everything!
so i think the best thing you can do is leave him to make his own decisions. hopefully if he is well educated on safe sex he will think against the idea anyway. good luck
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