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writes:I am committed since last 5 years, but just realized i was just fulfilling a commitment and am now in love with the other guy.Please help!I have always stick to the belief that i love the person in my life and i as a girl wanted to give him happiness, i waanted to b loyal. I have always considered Love as being loyal to my partner.After three years of my relationship with him I met the other guy,who fell in luv wid me, i stopped him, told hm that I am committed, but his feelings remained the same.Unfortunately, hez so genuinely good, nice to me that I could not stop myself falling in luv wid him.My boyfriend got to know dat something is disturbing our relation, he was very upset, cried a lot.I could not see him in pain and promised him i was wrong and willnot talk to the other guy ever.I tried my best not to talk to that guy.But believe me when i talk to my bf now, i realize the other guy was simply like me,wen i talk to the other guy ,its just an amazing feeling!!!My bf is very rough kind of person, and I am jolly kind, I wanted to love him the way he is and i did that until i met the other guy!Recently my bf asked for getting engaged,i could not react to that thing, m confused what to do??Please help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2010): thank you soo mkuch linda! luv uuu for this answer!I know i cant c my bf in pain,cant c him crying, will love him d way he is....just need to b strong not to talk or see mr.new!
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (12 July 2010):
 Well do not marry your BF if you have these thoughts, its not fair to say yes to such a strong commitment unless you are sure you want that too.
What will happen if you choose mr.new guy and you two date and 5 years later you meet someone else, after the honeymoon stage is far far over, and you get all these amazing feelings for the next new guy?
Are you absolutely positive you are in love with mr new and not just in love with the idea of being crazy about someone in a more of a passionate way? Because I do know that when relationships start its usually full of passion and whatnot, then as the relationship goes on it fades off quite a bit. Perhaps you miss the feeling? Just a suggestion in case you haven't thought about it. I'm not discrediting your feelings for mr new just wanted to throw that option out there for you to consider.
If you still love your BF but aren't sure about marrying him yet, nicely explain to him that you're not quite ready. Also, if you lost any heat during your relationship, its time to spice it up, so perhaps you can feel crazy for your bf all over again.
but I'm sure your gut instinct will lead you to what you really want, need and deserve. Good luck!
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