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female
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30-35,
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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years, for all of that time, i have had alot of problems with him masturbating, it makes me very depressed and i feel as if he doesnt care for me and it just gives me extremely low self esteem. I know that masturbation is normal and there isnt anything physically wrong with it, it just gives me these feelings.He's always known about them, and a few months ago he told me he's completely stopped as my feelings were getting inbetween our relationship and he said he'd rather have me than masturbation. I'm still unsure if it is actually possible for a male to stop altogether, maturbating. WE have a very active and healthy sex life, but still i have doubts in the back of my mind.I would like to know if it IS possible for males to stop masturbating, and whether or not im weird or alone for thinking this way, to this extent.:[
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reader, AskEve +, writes (10 February 2007):
 I would say 95 per cent of males masturbate. It is perfectly normal, perfectly healthy and releases a lot of tension. Did he volunteer this information to you or did you ask him if he did it? If you asked him then he was only being honest with you and you should respect that. If he was to do it compulsively, even when you're with him and actually preferred it to having sex with you, THEN you would have a problem but if he does it occasionally in the privacy of his own home then I certainly wouldn't worry about it.
As for your question, is it possible for males to stop masturbating... the answer is yes, for long periods anyway. Sometimes if they're busy, worried or stressed then it's the last thing on their minds and they can abstain for weeks, months or even years.
Your boyfriend and you seem to get along really well, don't let this drive a wedge between you, he's not doing anything wrong love.
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reader, vina_101 +, writes (10 February 2007):
 Its a bit unreasonable to ask him to stop masturbating really. I mean it's his penis and he can do with it what he wants (when alone of course). I know you want to be the only one to give him pleasure and I know him masturbating kind of makes you feel a bit inadequate but really... you shouldn't feel that way at all. I take it you don't masturbate then?
You're not weird for wanting him to stop, not at all. If your boyfriend likes to masturbate then that just makes him a normal guy, it doesn't mean he is not satisfied with you and it doesn't mean you don't take him there. He just likes to do it point blank. Also masturbation can be quite addictive and there is a possibility that maybe he might be. Just a thought, I could be wrong.
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