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writes:I've been with my current boyfriend for almost 8 months.We've been through our ups and downs like most couples but essentially we're very strong.But now I have a big problem.One of his so called friends told him that I was messing him about and texting other guys, and with no proof or evidence, other than what this guy said, my boyfriend accused me of this. I wholeheartedly denied it, seeing as it's not true, and said what I could to make him see that I would never cheat on him and that what his friend said was just lies.He said to me that he doesn't know what to believe, but I just want him to trust me and have faith in me, and I'm not sure what to do. Do I beg and plead for him to believe me or do I just hope and pray that he'll come to his senses? I know the ball is in his court, but it's so hard to resist the urge to just pour my heart out and grovel when I've done nothing wrong.Please help x
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2009): Hello. Theres no need to pour your heart out and grovel if youve done nothing wrong. Its all part of learning to trust. Youre bf will have to make a decision as to who he trusts, you or his so called friend. Stay cool and just reassure him you havent done anything wrong, if you havent. And he will have to make up his own mind, you cant force him. This type of thing may well happen again so you need to learn how to brush it all off and move forward with him. It may mean he or you lose a friend or two along the way but it will make you both stronger as a couple.... if you have faith in each other.
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reader, BlueBag +, writes (17 November 2009):
 What made his friend tell him these lies? Does his friend have suspicions or has this come out of no-where?
If there is absolutely no proof of you cheating and your boyfriend has never suspected this in the past then hopefully he will come to his senses. Tell him exactly how you feel and then give him time to think things through.
In the meantime, whoever this is you have supposed to have cheated with, give them a wide birth just to avoid any suspisions arrising again.
If his friend has just made this horrible lie off the top of his head then I would suggest your boyfriend find some new friends who don't want to sabotage his happiness.
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