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writes:Hey all, Well here's the basics im seventeen been with my boyfriend a year, everything has been great until around the end of november. When "the baby voice" came into my relationship. Out of no where my boyfriend started speaking like a baby, it was kind of funny at first but i guess thats when i thought it was a one off thing.Now two months on im lucky if i actually speak to my boyfriend when hes being himself and talking in his own voice. He litterally speaks in his own voice for about ten minutes of everyday, the rest hes acting like a baby and hes started texting like a baby aswell. Heres some things as an example (everything he says is in a baby voice and every word has changed )I wuv youBubaHewwoand the worst of all of themWill you suck my wiwwi.We havent had sex in around 2 weeks ( we used to have it everyday, maybe twice a day!) due to the fact that he doesnt want it as im always moaning at him and i dont want it as during foreplay and sex he speaks like a baby. Its a huge turn off.I miss my boyfriend a lot, around all of his friends hes this cool bad boy type, and he used to be cuddly and manly and a real turn on, but now hes just this baby. Its got too the point where im nearly in tears begging him to stop speaking like it but he carrys on.He makes bargains with me, ill be like please stop and he'l say i promise il try and stop if you make me a cup of tea or if you give me a massage, but he never keeps his side of the deal for long.When hes sat there watching t.v or concentrating i'l look at him and feel so attracted to him and so much love for him, and when he be's himself, and talks and acts like himself i feel the same, and then when he acts like a baby those feelings all go, i guess i just feel irratated and hate towards him then.sorry for how long it is everyone, i hope you have a good understanding though.Please help, i dont want to end this relationship as i know we will both be heart broken but i need him to see what such a little thing is doing to our relationship. Ive tried telling him and he just goes in a mood with me and says im " over reacting"Thanks in advance for your answers xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2009): woooooooow isn't this a little congregation of close minded and down right nasty people. Firstly sounds like your bf is into infantilism, a fetish of such where people like to be babied, not everyones cup of tea (obviously not yours)but it sounds like he likes it, if you can't accept those fantasies then your gonna need to talk it through...sounds like you want to cut him off from acting this way so he will no longer share that side of him with you which i think is kinda sad ... i'd also like to say "shame on you" to all the people who suggested that humiliating him in front of his friends was a good way to "nip it in the bud", seriously how cruel is that? If you truly loved someone, even if they had a weird fetish that you couldn't cope with, you wouldn't want to embarrass, expose and degrade them in public...someone that actually thinks that humiliation is a mature way to deal with something like this is SICK, more sick than a guy wanting to role play as a baby by far.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 February 2009):
Great! Glad it all worked out and showing him your post here and the responses was a great idea.
"Will you suck my wiwwi." did make my husband and I laugh our heads off though... I just have a horrible feeling he's going to text me that ALL the time from now on.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Gorgeous' +, writes (1 February 2009):
Gorgeous' is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDo you no what? Im sat here with the biggest smile on my face all thanks to you guys!Thanks for all the advice it was brilliant, i decided though to tell him i had written this and show him what i had written and what you guys had said. He sat there and read what i had written and agreed with it all, he said he couldnt help doing the voice, he had got to the point where everything he said came out in that voice and he couldnt help it. The message finally got through to him, i saw that he finally understood how i felt- even though he tried to laugh it off. Tonight i have had a evening with my boyfriend the person i got with a year ago.Thank you so much, you saved my relationship xx
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reader, Gorgeous' +, writes (1 February 2009):
Gorgeous' is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDo you no what? Im sat here with the biggest smile on my face all thanks to you guys!Thanks for all the advice it was brilliant, i decided though to tell him i had written this and show him what i had written and what you guys had said. He sat there and read what i had written and agreed with it all, he said he couldnt help doing the voice, he had got to the point where everything he said came out in that voice and he couldnt help it. The message finally got through to him, i saw that he finally understood how i felt- even though he tried to laugh it off. Tonight i have had a evening with my boyfriend the person i got with a year ago.Thank you so much, you saved my relationship xx
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reader, Miss Karma Louise +, writes (1 February 2009):
Hi,Some boys think that girls like to be spoken to like that i remember not so long ago i had a man calling me his baby girl in a babyish voice and i the end i had to tell him to stop and he did he assumed that us girls thought it was sweet..ask him?
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reader, MoonlightDrive70 +, writes (1 February 2009):
 i would need my partner to totally stop thie freaky voice immediately or it would be all over in my book. The fact he's bargaining with promises to stop the voice is worrying too man.
Watch out or you'll be changing his nappy by the year out.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (1 February 2009):
Urgh, what is it about big men who turn into blubbering wrecks after the first few months???
I hate this and for future boyfriends the trick to cut them off before it starts, they are trying to be cute and it IS cut for 5 minutes. After that just step back and say in a REALLY sarcastic voice "God you are the most sexually attractive man I have ever seen." Kill it dead.
For this boyfriend, it has gone way too far and I do get the feeling that he does find it funny to annoy you with it.
I think the anon poster has the best idea. Wait till he's with his friends and then cuddle him and ask him to do the voice and tell his mates it's SOOOOOO cute and REALLY funny and say:
He wikes to talk wike a baby. Do the wikkle baba voice, he's my little baba and I stroke his head and he asks me to suck his wee wee but sex is bad for babies so we just cuddle instead. Hewwo,are you wistening to me? Show all your baby fwends what a gorgeous wittle baby you are!!!
He might actually figure out how irritating it is when all his mates are on the floor doubled up with laughter taking the piss out of him.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, timmy88 +, writes (1 February 2009):
I think that you need to sit down together and tell him that you cant take being in a relationship with him whilst he's acting like this, and if he carry's on then suggest going on a break for him to think through the way he's acting.Sometimes its only till we've lost something that we realize what we've really got.He needs to understand that although you used to find it funny at first its gone way to far now. Doing it during foreplay could mean that perhaps he's into acting like a baby during sex. Some people like wearing nappy's and stuff when they do that. If thats the case that doesn't mean he likes children in a sexual way it just means that he likes being cared for, and having a mother figure to look after him. I think this needs a long discussion together about how you feel.I hope I've helped in some way
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (1 February 2009):
eeewww that baby talk has to stop.
do you know that some men actually have a fetish where they role play being babies and they like to be mothered! they do things like go to these "whore houses" where they put on nappies and get some older woman to change them, feed them and treat them like toddlers. you should maybe talk to him and ask him why he is doing the baby talk thing. you never know he could be one of these guys who likes to be mothered. google it, you will no doubt find loads of info on it
all i can say is that you are still very young and if you're not happy with the constant baby talk, then why put up with him? get rid of him and find someone who talks like a young man rather then a child.
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reader, 24yeahright  +, writes (1 February 2009):
Sounds to me like he's doing it because he knows it ticks you off. If it's as frequent as you say, then no wonder you're getting pissed off!By him continuing to do it after you have asked him not to is disrespectful and it sounds like it is seriously hurting your relationship.You need to tell him that every time he does it, the love you feel for him diminishes a little bit.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): This dude has some issues!If he wants to act like a baby, than treat him like one!A. A baby doesn't have sex. Cut him off!B. Feed him baby food and buy him baby toys and a box of diapers.C. Give them to him in front of his friends!Say here you go wittle boy,I got some toys for the wittle baby who wikes to talk and act wike a baby. Until you start acting wike a big boy, I'm no going to suck your wiwi or anyting else. Hewwo,are you wistening to me?If that doesn't do the trick, tell him it's over, and you're going to find yourself a REAL MAN!Make sure you stick to your word! He'll grow up in a big hurry when he sees you walk out the door.Sick as it sounds, there are men who want to be treated like a baby, diapers and all! This could be some sort of sex fetish that he's trying to work you in to!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): This is very strange but this is properly a turn on for him. Personally I end it, he has to be with a woman who's willing to play mummy to him. Such a sick game but he's not going to stop
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2009): Say it's me or the baby voice.
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