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writes:So my man and I haven't been together long. Hes a sweet man and takes care if me (we both work) but I mean he does things for me no other man has done. My issue is, when he first moved in with me he was on the phone with his ex (apparently we weren't official at that time) and was telling her oh that pic isn't from last night (a pic of him I tagged him in on facebook) and yea ill be over here in a little bit. Then we become official and hes texting her, sending her pictures of his tattoo, little quotes, etc. He knows its an issue for me. He promised to quit but she still writes him on faceboom and everything else and it bothers me. He says he doesn't talk to her but there are times when he will turn his phone away from me and then when he goes back to the main screen he'll turn it back toward me. Am I overreacting? I really care about him and feel like he could be the one, but this thing has been stressing me out I feel so paranoid. I do have bad trust issues. I need some advice :(
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reader, Foot-In-My-Mouth  +, writes (1 May 2013):
 You're not overreacting. He obviously wants to keep his options open and that means she's more important to him than you are. He's broken a promise made to you. Now he's contacting her on the sly. All this doesn't bode well for your relationship. I suggest you make it known that you will not tolerate such disrespect and possibly, infidelity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2013): You're not overreacting because he promised he'd stop and he hasn't.
OP he's broken a promise and lied to you.
You're not paranoid either OP, paranoid is when you worry about something that may never happen. This is happening.
He's still too emotionally attached to his ex and may in fact be emotionally cheating on you with her.
OP he's broken a promise, lied very blatantly to you, has 100% broken your trust and guess what? He is more than willing to lose you just so he can keep in contact with her.
The question is are you going to tolerate that, take it lying down or are you going to do something about it?
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reader, NORA B  +, writes (1 May 2013):
Yes i can understand why you are upset with your boyfriend texting his ex.Have a long indept chat with your b/f telling him how upset you are Also be very firm when you ask him THE REASON WHY HE IS TEXTING HIS EX.Tell him that Trust works with both people and this has become a issue for you and causing you a lot of stress.He needs not alone to care for you but also to respect you .Kind Wishes Nora B.
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