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writes: What does it mean my boyfriend is obessed with his guy friends. He even stalks them guy friends and paces when they go somewhere without him. It is creepy is he gay? Does he not like me? he need to be cool. Wth is wrong with him. He does think ofof them more me and i think they think he needy which is why they ditch jim. I have never seen a guy stalk his guy friends. He is really sad they go without him someone where he drives to where they say they going if they there. They always on his mind. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2014): Again he dont have a facebook and i dont stalk. Stalking is scary and a waste of time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2014): First answer. We been together 15 years and this is the first time i seen him stalk his friends. But yes one time when we was broken up he made a comment that he over texts his friends and they dont reply like he does to me. We back together now. But yes mybe shouldn't be cause his comment about the texting. However i need help here cause when i pull away given lots of space he then complains i left he him lonely. And ask me not to do it again. I will do anything to not spend time with him again at this point cause he is annoying the hell out of me. I think he has bpd border line wth do i do with him. It sucks. Also i mean i sent him lots of texts and he didnt reply and he brought up how he is like that with his friends how im like with him. Meaning he texts them alot they dont reply. I text him alot he dont reply or vice versa. Answer this what the hell do i do with him¿¿?
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reader, Fatherly Advice  + ♥, writes (17 March 2014):
 not gay, yes needy. As honey asked I also suspect that his needy behavior is reflected in your relationship with him.
In the end what he needs desperately is to feel confident in a relationship. There needs to be a place where he can expect love and nourishment unreservedly. Until he finds that place his behavior is not going to change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2014): Gay and creepy? Seriously?!!!
No!!! He's bored. He thinks he's missing a good-time staying home and being smothered by his girlfriend. The guys are posting their activities; so the other guys know what's going on. He wants to get out and do guy-stuff?
You've apparently been too clingy! If he doesn't spend his every waking moment, and center all his attention around you; then I guess he must be gay. That's ridiculous.
Keep thinking like that, and you'll be stalking FB wondering what he's out doing after he dumps you.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (17 March 2014):
 I think he sounds very insecure and has abandonment issues. It sounds like he'll do just about anything to belong to a group, which is why he has become obsessed with his friends. He wants to belong. This has nothing to do with sexual orientation. He probably has childhood issues of always being ostrasized / abandoned by everyone. I think he needs to talk to a therapist to figure out how he can overcome these issues and heal.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (17 March 2014):
 Is he your age group?
If so, is he a creepy gay for stalking his friends? Not necessarily, but creepy yes. There is a GOOD reason they go out without him, they aren't his "friends" as he might think. Friends would not exclude a person over and over unless they feel like he isn't someone they want with them to these events.
For someone in his 30's to act this way, it's rather weird IMO.
If you go out without him he doesn't "stalk" you? Maybe that is because he is OK with you doing things without but is not his "friends".
It seems rather juvenile.
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