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writes: My boyfriend and I have been together since 6 months. Hes a computer guy and spends all day on his computer at work. I'm concerned how much time he spends not working, but chatting or doing something else. He has so many accounts on so many different portals. On some of the accounts he hasn't changed his entries, so it still says looking for long term or shot term relationship... I know he's talking to other woman. He's been talking to one girl from the other side of the world over a year. She's 20 he's 30. Is that normal? He said they're just friends. What is he looking for? What does he get out of these conversations? They've been talking before we got back together, but I still have a problem with it. Am I overreacting?
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reader, Caring Aunty A  +, writes (16 August 2013):
 It maybe normal for your generation to have many different portals and talk to people on the other side of the world and call them friends when in fact there just strangers rabbiting on (chatting)… What he gets from these conversations will be found in their entries to one another!?
If you still have a problem with him talking and in particular find his status has not changed, I would be asking him some questions, not because of this friend, but because this isn’t a good way in which one focuses on their relationship; especially if you two got back together again.
It also sounds like he has nothing better to do with his time and energy? Plus, what he stands to achieve by not changing his status is a matter for you to talk to him about, pronto!?
Take Care – Caring Aunty A
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (15 August 2013):
 You maybe over-reacting. It is possible to have friends of the opposite sex without it neccessarily being anything more than friendship.
What you do need to do is talk. You may be able to guauge by his reaction what your next move should be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2013): no you are not overreacting. i bet he wouldnt let you do the same. to be honest, he is not very committed and would probably dump you, if he could get better, but he carnt, and thats why he uses the computer. he`s a dreamer. get rid.
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