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writes:Dear cupid,i have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 mths now. and each time we make love he never has an orgasm. he does enjoy the sex and he always has an erection when are making love. i am worried is this normal not to have an orgasm?.. i have asked him severally if there is a problem and he says no
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reader, leonard j.Douglas  +, writes (27 July 2007):
Your Bf says his Delayed Ejaculation, that is what his failure to have an orgasm during intercourse is called. And Yes my Sex Bible does calls it a problem, even when he doesn't see it that way. Delayed ejaculators can bring themselves to an orgasm by self-stimulation,"Masturbation".The Delayed-Ejaculation is caused by a sever resisance to spilling his seed, semen, into your vagina. Here is one way that he can learn to ejaculate within your vagina. He, or you can bring him as close to an orgasm by hand as possible. Then just before he comes,ejaculates. His penis needs to be inserted into your vagina where he can have his orgasm. Don't worry how soon he has his orgasm,because in later sessions of lovemaking he can insert his penis at earlier and earlier stages before he ejaculates. And in time,neither of you will need to engage in the Penile-Stimulation prior to your normal intercourse You might want to have your Bf lay on his back and you are, astride, kneeling facing him. You then bring him to an erection, then close to an orgasm, but then just before he comes, ejaculates, You insert his penis into your vagina and let him ejaculate within it. Do keep in mind that mutual masturbation should always be a part of your lovemaking routine Do hope this has been helpful to the both of you. Do get some good books on human-sexuality, Okay. There's lots of good info. on Internet, Yes even Porno Sites can help to improve one's sexuality. So do grow together in the oneness of each other's love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 July 2007): Hi!!Iknow this might not make much of a difference to you but I wrote in earlier saying that I just can't reach orgasm with my boyfriend!! I know u must feel like you are doing something wrong but if your boyfiernd is anything like me then U'R NOT!! I really enjoy oral sex and penetration with him but for some unkonow reason I never quite get there!! I know this makes him feel bad as well because he thinks that he isn't satisfying!! but it's not that at all!! I don't know what I can recommened to u but I would say don't feel guilty about it and don't think it's anything that u'r doing wrong!!x
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reader, Dr. John  +, writes (26 July 2007):
 There could be any number of reasons for this. It could be a physical or medical problem or it could possibly be a mental problem.
Now don't get me wrong, I am not saying he may be a little off or the like, but there could be something that mentally traumatized him as he was growing up which is now causing this problem.
The only way to positively determine the problem is to have him see his doctor.
This is by no means an uncommon problem.
I found something that may ease your mind a bit for now though.
http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0500.html
Hope it helps. Doc.
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