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writes:My partner of 4 and half years wants to end our relationship, he says he doesnt love me. He is still very affectionate and touching and intimate with me. HOw can he be like this if he doesnt love me. We never fight and we get along well, he did cheat 2 years ago and I forgave him. I dont know what to think? Reply to this Question
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reader, Longhornfan81  +, writes (29 November 2010):
Girl, MOVE ON!!! It sounds like he is stringing you along--and why not if can get what he wants in the end. If he really loved you, he never would have told you that he doesn't-Be STRONG and be the one to end the relationship and find someone else who can appreciate you. Don't give him the power to end the relationship.
How much more of your life are you going to waste on this person before you realize its a mistake? Life is too short....Love yourself more and know in the end that everything will work itself out. It may be your blessing that this relationship doesn't work out......
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (29 November 2010):
 He acts like this because you let him touch you. He is telling you that the relationship is over but he isn't ready to refuse having sex with you. With his past cheating and present behaviour it doesn't sound like he is a great person to spend the rest of your life with. Sex can be confused with love for some people, particularly when it is in the context of a long term relationship. It probably hurts a lot that he has made his declaration. I think his behaviour is disrespectful towards your feelings. However, you are in control of your own life so it is time to leave him and find someone who will treasure you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): As much as you don't want to believe it, if he is telling you that he doesn't love you then you can pretty much take it that what he is saying is true
Why is he still be intimate with you? because he likes having sex with you. I know it's not easy but it's time to let this one go.
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reader, allieb19 +, writes (29 November 2010):
I am in a very similar situation..where my fiance says he isn't in love anymore after I forgave him for cheating. I would try to talk to him and be patient and ask why he feels that way and tell him that there's no pressure but you love him very much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2010): Wow I bet you wish you did not forgive him now and wasted two years of your life!!
Move on
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