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writes:I been in a 9 year relationship with this guy and we have 2 kids together and he has hurt me so many times. Is it even worth it trying to make it work? He has cheated on me numerous of time and I constantly forgave him and try to make it for my family. He treats me like I'm nobody. He talks down on me all the time, like anything I do is ever good enough! What should I do?
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Leave him... and I don't say that lightly.. I prefer for families to stay together..
This man is abusive and you deserve better.. make sure he pays towards the kids, and remember, if he treats you bad, it dosen't mean that they should be punished if he's been a good dad. Kids need contact with their dads, but women deserve to be happy.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (2 April 2010):
End it. He won't change and he's proved it. And your children need a stable home, something that this relationship is not offering.
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reader, Kenj +, writes (2 April 2010):
 Any man who treats his partner this way is not a man in my book, he is a coward.
I know its harder because you have the children to account but you should really just wake up and stop going back to him.
He is obviously not in love with you and is most likley just using you. This relationship may turn to physical abuse later on, you should take a long hard look at where your life is going.
I am sure you can do much better for yourself.
Sorry to sound so harsh, but its a reality check.
Hope you find what your looking for!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2010): I am not one to tell a person who is in love to leave someone, but from what you wrote it doesn't appear as though this guy respects you. He might love you, like you or even care about you to a certain degree, but he doesn't have any real regard for the relationship. Plus, it's been nine years and you still with him...you stayed with him and had two children by him without allowing him to put a ring on it FIRST. I will not tell you what to do, I will tell you what I WOULD DO. Maybe he first year or year and a half, I would have given him a chance to get his act together, but after that, I would have conjured up the strength to leave him regardless of how much it hurt me or how many nights I had to spend crying my eyes out or how much weight I lost in the process. Now that is what I would have done. The longer you stay the harder it is to leave...and he may never change, esp. when you knows you will take him back and put up with his crap. And if he is young, lets not blame it on youth either---there are plenty of young folks who do go around disrespecting, belitting and using others. This guy needs help, he needs to get his act together and you have to become a stronger person mentally not just for yourself but for your two kids as well.
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