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16-17,
GL11
writes:hiya, ive been with my boyfriend for two years, and hes just joined the army, hes been in there for 5 months now, and i cant cope, im worried and scared and hurt that he will eventually be going to athganistan, im hurting so much you have no idea, im only 17 and we both just want to live with each otha now, we love each other so much, im finding this difficult im not eating properly and i just want someone to talk to.. soon he gets posted to cyprus and im going with him, i dont care what anyone says mi parents have finnaly got around the idea, so im going, but obviously its not as simple as that, i need somewhere to live, and i could rent off someone, i cant marry yet so i cant live in the army barracks, what am i supposed to how much money do i need to save so i no iv got some there, and is it easy to get a job out there? i have to go, cause i cant carry on like this, im hurtin and i dont no what to do.. plz someone write back and help. thankyou
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reader, GL11 +, writes (8 September 2008):
GL11 is verified as being by the original poster of the question hello, i no in dis mesage i mite snd needy, but i love him so much and he feels the same two, and i really want to go 2 cyprus with him, not just for him but for me 2 just a fresh start, and they dont work that much when there out there, they get the evenings free. thankyou so much for helping and giving me tips and a website on how to sort all this out. thankyou xx
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reader, Emilysanswers + ♥, writes (7 September 2008):
Woah sweetie you need to calm down.
Try this website:
www.forcesgirls.co.uk as a lot of the girls on there will be living in Cyprus already and will be able to advise.
Yes he will be off to Iraq / Afghanistan because they all go at some point. My hubbie has done Iraq three times now.
But the only way for you to cope and not go insane is to have your own life, your own job and your own friends and family around you.
If you to a foreign country and he goes away you will be MENTAL with worry and lonliness.
If you are going to be an army wife or girlfriend then you need to get used to him being away all the time and being scared for him. It's going to stay like this for the next 4 years at least.
Calm down and sort yourself out.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, PsyCookie  +, writes (6 September 2008):
 Look on the internet for that place and look around for real estate and the prices for them.
Later, make a lot more internet searches and look for jobs in the area. Thought I doubt you'll get one. You're still a minor, not even have a high school diploma. No skills at all whatsoever and you might have to learn the language to get there.
Sincerily dear, are you sure you want to do this? I agree with the anonymos poster, you sound TOO clingy. And you can't even do things yourself! You have to ask things as simple as that when you could have made long internet searches!
If I were you, I would have instead be worried that he be killed or seriously injured, but you that you can't "be without him"? and that he "hurt you" for going to the army? That all sounds selfish to me. He got in to the military because he wants help either the country or himself for his studies... he never did this to spite you! Don't be ridiculous.
So you will go to another, strange place to be with your boyfriend when you actually might not even see him (he will stay in the barracks and will not be allowed to go out much, probably once a month, so you know). You will be away from family and friends. You're still a kid and it will be hard for you to get a decent job to pay all bills because of your lack of skills.
Just putting that up, so you realize the reality of everything.
Well, but you're bound to do this. I think your parents are not really arquing with you anymore because they can't make you see what you're doing so they will let you fall on your own.
Well, so be it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): Why don't you stop clinging to him and stand on your own feet?
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