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writes: Ok I have a boyfriend, and ive got a big problem. Everyone always says he flirts with other girls, EVERYONE. And i can tell, he ALWAYS hugs all the girls at our school, and when he does, he puts his arms around their waist. I get so pissed and he says he THINKS hes not flirting. Whats that supposed to mean and should I break up with him?
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reader, oliviaclairex  +, writes (25 November 2009):
 That could naturally be his personality. He has confidence and is comfortable being like that. I dated a guy who everyone said was charming, and he had girls all over him. I used to worry and think he was either a massive flirt, leading girls on etc, but it wasn't like that. He was different with me I just never stopped and thought about it.
At the end of the day, he is going out with you, and not any of them.
If he is doing it in front of you all the time and it is really upsetting you, just talk to him. And don't listen to other people either.
Don't break up with him(:
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 November 2009): Dont break up! Jikes... You wanna end things because of what everyone else says? Stop listening to everyone else! Everyone else isnt dating him! You are.
He's not cheating, and flirting isn't cheating. If you trust him and he's good to you and you know he's only yours, you won't find this a problem. But, since you say you get pissed, I take it you dont like either A: His behaviour with other women, or B: What everyone else says.
Hard to see which one is your real problem actually, based on your post alone. But if it's his flirting with others: try telling him you feel insecure and not special when he flirts around. Tell him that laying his arm around some other woman doesn't make you feel good.
Bottom line though is that if you are the jealous type you shouldn't be dating this man as he sounds to be a social butterfly. To date those you need to be very confident in both yourself and the relationship.
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