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writes:Dear Cupid,I don't know what to do anymore. I hate myself, my life and everything. I just do not feel like living anymore, especially when it comes to "Relationship". I get into fights with my boyfriend everyday. He always starts it though. And he always acts as if he doesn't have any fault. He doesn't even know how much i love him. If i say anything he goes like "Stop pretending!". He doesn't trust me, well he does but A LITTLE BIT. But that doesn't work.He is romantic and all but he has SERIOUS EGO PROBLEM. Which i hate the most and i can never make him understand because i think he would get mad at me. He gets mad at me for a simple thing. Also, i sometimes do things which he doesn't like but it's not my fault because i mean people forget things right? And everyone makes mistakes. But he just doesn't try to listen to me.We got into a fight today and he hung up and never called me back. I do not want to call him either because i want to see what he does. But what if he doesn't call me? WHAT SHOULD I DO? We go to the same school and are in the same class. So he often gets jealous of me if i talk to any guy. I cry a lot, just for him. I really want to stay with him forever because i love him and we have so many things in common. I am the one who always says "sorry" first, even if it is his fault. He does care about me. But i am so confused. If he gets mad at me, he doesn't talk to me or call me the rest of the day and this is really depressing because i am a very emotional person so i cry a lot. Please help me out. Sorry for the length.Thank you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2010): Exact same situation I am in these days. I am in love with this guy since last 5 months. I felt as if he is the world to me, I really love him. But I think he likes to fight with me every time, probably he enjoys it. Small fights are good sometimes, but every time?? I think it gets annoying. I mean you waste a lot of time in thinking and worrying about something very unimportant. He is a great guy, but I know I can not take this for life time. I have no choice but to move on. Every experience teaches you a lot in life. I will miss him though.
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reader, LLindy87  +, writes (7 May 2010):
 three things:
1. dump him, no one should be in a relationship that makes them hate life
2. take responsiblity for your actions
3. spend more time away from him
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2010): I had a boyfriend exactly like this. He was even into acting, and he was a bigtime pretender. He was insanely jealous and I felt like I had to always watch what I did and said to any guy friends around him because he could take it wrong and a fight would start. He loved attention from me and from others. I cried a lot also. I sometimes just pretended to cry just to get him to stop yelling at me. I loved him very much, at the time.So one day I went away to a summer camp, my junior year. We had been dating for around 2 years at that point. I got to this camp and after a few weeks I loved the freedom I had, away from him. I could be who I really am and not be afraid my boyfriend was going to start crying or get angry at me. So what did I do? I dumped him.It was a very difficult break up but it eventually worked out. I've now got a boyfriend who is so wonderful. There isn't any tension in our relationship and it's nice not to have to worry about him blowing up at me for things I didn't mean to do. I think that you are asking this question means it's time to end it and move on. You don't want to stay in a relationship like this, trust me I know. It's soooo much better being away from my ex. Its like the drama all went away when he did. Dump him.
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reader, raiders +, writes (6 May 2010):
 You should not let a boys actions or attitude contribute to your mood, hard to do but it can be done.
You have no control over your boyfriend tantrums, so you shouldn't worry about it when he gets over it he will call.
Don't sit around and wait for his call if he gets mad instead of calling him and apologizing go out with your friend distract yourself.
If he gets mad because you talk to friend let him that is his problem his insecurities and he now has two jobs be mad and get happy. A total waste of energy.
Most important don't ever take your life for granted never never, you are important and if this guy can't see it give him the boot. I really feel that the guy is not the main problem maybe plays a small role but not the problem. You need to interact more with groups hang out with teens in a safe environment do things but please don't sit and feel sorry for yourself.
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