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writes:ok me and my boyfriend had a fight the other night cause i didnt trust where he was when he went drinking and he text me the next day saying hes not happy anymore so i went round to his and he was in a kind of mood/trance type thing looking totally depressed and he said hes just not happy with the relationship and that he has been feeling like this gradually recently.. i tried to find out why and he said that he wants more me time for himself as we have spent loads of time together recently and we agreed we would sort this out.. ever since then hes been acting normal to me at work and at his but he wont kiss, hug or say i love you as much anymore and it has really got me down.. he said he just needs some space and time to sort himself out cause he feels this way but he said he doesnt want to break up.. he has got in this kind of mood before but with other problems to do with hi family etc. so i guess the same is happening with us.. just feel really low and im meeting up with him tomorrow but im scared he will end things or still be acting the same.. i just want to know if anyone else has been through this and been able to sort it out?
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reader, Thornbirds  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 Give him what he wants. Yes, it sounds like he really needs some space. Men by general don't want to be tied to their gfs' interrogations as to their whereabouts. This is equivalent to a nagging wife. Women feel that they simply care about them..but men think otherwise.. They need space to breathe from too much exclusivity.Give him space to breathe, and move, and live his life without someone having to pull his sleeve whenever he wants to be free.Men are free creatures. They love to belong,but not to be possessed.Keep a little distance,and let him enjoy his freedom. If he really loves you, he'll come back to you whenever he is ready.For the meantime, set him free. When he comes back,you know what not to do next time.
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