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writes:I'm in a long distance relationship. When I'm with my boyfriend, we usually spend a week together each visit. During that week he's want sex at least once, sometimes twice per day. He has a high sex drive and is always erect when we lay together. But there are times I just want to lay there and cuddle, I don't want sex. He doesn't understand that and reasons that because we don't see each other often, we should have as much sex as we can while we are together. He also likes to web cam and have cyber sex with me, but I can't get into cyber sex as it does nothing for me. I feel like it's not love or emotional, I feel like he just wants to see a naked body andhear someone moan so he can jerk off to.I feel that sex with him is missing something emotionally.. Like it's not love making, rather just a quick fuck session. I'm not saying he doesn't love me, but he doesn't know the difference between making love to someone and just sex. Or maybe he makes love to his exes just has sex with me.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (2 February 2016):
 Most of us guys confuse those two issues. You can only decide if he is EVER going to figure out the difference.. OR, is he stuck with that sophomoric understanding that poking one's penis in to a woman's vagina is "making love...."
Some of us NEVER figure it out.... Others, do....
Good luck....
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (2 February 2016):
 When you both spend this week together do you do other fun activities? Do you go for dinner or a drink? Do you go and watch a movie or play some bowling? Being in a relationship is not always about the sexual side, its about doing fun stuff together and spending quality time together.
Have you both spoke about what is going to happen long term. You say you are in a relationship therefore I assume that you both want to be together permanently. Have you spoke about whats going to happen in the future?
If all that is on his mind is sex then this to me doesn't sound like a healthy relationship. I can see that there is no passion there for you, I am aware you feel like he wants sex you give in and then its over with. Off course a woman wants passion, she wants to feel loved and a connection. Could it be that he is not the right man for you?
If he is okay in all other aspect off the relationship except for the sexual side. Then maybe you need to tell him you want more. More excitement. More passion. Maybe he doesn't no know to express himself so maybe you can guide him. If cyber sex is not for you then you need to tell him that it is off limits. If he does not respect your decision then he is not the man for you.
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reader, Denizen  +, writes (2 February 2016):
 I have to ask you, why are you in a long distance relationship? Is it that you used to live close to each other and one of you had to move away? Or is it that you discovered each other on line and hoped you would be a good match?
The success of all relationships relies on being together. Relationships can stand some distance, but not indefinitely. This is the aspect you need to concentrate on.
He sees you every so often and wants to get his rocks off. You want something else.
You either need to move closer to each other or you will come apart sooner or later. Sorry but it's a given.
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reader, suzzzque269 +, writes (2 February 2016):
 thatsa big problem with ldr...they end up being a never ending hookup! even with daily hour long phone calls its just not the same. in my experience it feels like the only reason why guys in an ldr want to see me is for sex...not even to get me a cup of coffee lol
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