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I met him on Tinder and am wondering what he is aiming for?

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Question - (2 February 2016) 5 Answers - (Newest, 3 February 2016)
A female Germany age 26-29, anonymous writes:

Hello everyone!

I need some advice. I've met a guy on Tinder (an app that has a certain reputation) a week ago. He was quite friendly, charming and caring. We talked about our hobbies, school (we're enrolled in university) and just general stuff. Then we changed to Whatsapp.

He said, I'm cute, hot and interesting. Later sex became the subject of our conversation because I have no trouble talking about it and he doesn't too.

He's nice (apparently single) and teasing me but I still have some doubts, because we met on Tinder and the topic changed quite fast (within a week).

I've looked for advice on the internet. Many websites were telling me that I can identify a hooker by the time of his texting (when it's always at night, he is a hooker for sure).

That doesn't apply. He's messaging me early in the morning, sometimes at noon and mostly in the evening. Also at night on the weekend. Every day.

I just don't know... I have mixed feelings and some people advised me against asking what he's aiming for.

I would really appreciate your honest opinion! And sorry for my English, I'm not a native speaker.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (3 February 2016):

Honeypie agony auntHeheh, thanks for clarifying :)

How can you tell? Little hard so early on, but someone who jumps to sex talk fast, might be more focused on sex than something serious - however, if you meet up and are upfront about NOT wanting to be sexual till you KNOW him well enough, and can see it going somewhere might "root" out the guy who are just looking for sex.

Stick to a short "first date" in public - like coffee/lunch and see how you two get along. If he is willing/able to have conversations that aren't JUST sexual and willing to wait with the sex, then he might not be a "hooker" :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (3 February 2016):

@Honeypie:

Oh sorry, I mixed up. I mean someone, who is only chasing for sex.

My apologies!

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A male reader, Roboaxe United States +, writes (3 February 2016):

Roboaxe agony auntMake sure to meet at a public place if you do decide to see him. Just to make sure you are being safe.

Switching to sex talk so early before he has even met you is not a great sign that he wants something more than just that.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (2 February 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntI think you should give him a chance and see how it goes. If you are not after a one night stand well then set some boundaries. Be straight with him and tell him you are not looking for a hook up. Meet him somewhere public and give him a chance, just don't put yourself in a situation where you are alone with him until you have gotten to know him better. Good Luck.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (2 February 2016):

Honeypie agony auntOP can you clarify what a "hooker" is?

In English it's a prostitute, but I don't think that is what you mean?

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