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writes:My boyfriend/sweetheart keeps saying things like "Don't say you love me when you don't mean it. You don't love me" he decides my feelings for me, and yet he tells me he loves me. I love him with every fiber of my entire being, but I don't know what to do about this. Can you help? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 July 2012): Thank you, guys. You have been a lot of help.
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reader, Abella +, writes (29 July 2012):
 he's insecure and rude.
How dare he claim to know what is in your head.
Do not try too hard with this guy, as i think he is controlling.
I think he aims to make you think you need to give your all to him and even that will never be enough for him.
He expects too much.
Demands too much
And is then not satisfied.
Sorry, but to me he asks too much.
He refuses to respect your truthful words
Claims he loves you more. He cannot know that.
Potentially i think he could become abusive.
Long term i think he is a bad risk.
Want to see his really nasty side? Don't do something he wants you to do.
The truth of who he really is could emerge if you do this.
After you see his nasty side I do not think you will want to stay with him once you are more aware of his nastier attitudes.
Control freaks are always best avoided.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (29 July 2012):
 By negating your words he is disrespecting you, he is telling you your words are worth zip.
Ask him what he hopes to achieve by denying you your words and your feelings?
Tell him he doesn't know what thoughts are in your head, what knowledge is held within your being, or the feelings you hold in your heart.
Don't accept somebody denying who you are like this, tell him either he allows you your own thoughts and feelings or he can walk.
And good for you recognising his words for what they are at such a young age, it took me until my 30s to realise what was being done to me!
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