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female
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51-59,
*unshine4040
writes:Dear Cupid,I've been dating this guy for about a year now and at first the relationship was good, but now it's turning sour. I’m having a problem with him emailing his ex girlfriend as well as she emails him and he has her on his face book and I sent him a invite to my face book and he ignored it, asked him why he says that his face book is for friends, family and class mate and that he sees and talk to me on a daily basis. I want to tell him that it's either me or her and I also want to know where his heart at rather it's with me or her? What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): Do you know if his facebook page says he's in a relationship with you? That would rule out the idea of him using it for chatting up other women. I don't know, I kind of see facebook as an impersonal way to vaguely stay in touch with people you don't know that well or good friends who live far away and you would otherwise rarely be in touch anymore. It doesn't seem necessary to have your partner as one of your friends, it almost seems to take something away from your relationship. I haven't added my guy and we've been together for almost a year now. I've looked him up a few times but something always stops me from adding him. I wouldn't take it too personally if I were you, or get too suspicious. You could try some jokes like "aw, come on, add me! I promise I'll limit the embarrassing messages to one a day!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): Facebook is designed to stay in touch with distant friends and relatives (maybe not so distant, but you know what i mean). Why would he need to keep in touch with you if he's does on a regular basis anyway?
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reader, celtic_tiger  +, writes (2 September 2009):
 Facebook. The downfall of modern society. I think this has caused more relationship break ups than I can count!
I think giving him an ultimatum may not be the best idea, because at the end of the day, it is only facebook. He does see you every day, and apart from this, does he give you any other reason to doubt his feelings for you?
I had a similar situation with my ex boyfriend. When he first signed up to it, which was a good 8 months into our relationship, I left him a nice message with xxxx after it. We ended up having a MASSIVE row, because I was not allowed to leave kisses. The reasons being he had added ex girlfriends and they may get jealous. Yeah right. Turned out he was actually looking for women on a dating site and had added a couple on facebook. He didnt want them knowing he had a girlfriend. I dumped him.
I think you need to step back a bit, and look at the bigger picture. Is he just having a harmless communication with this woman, or is there more to it. Until you know this, dont make any rash decisions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K6NdPrqgGt0
You will have to copy and paste the entire link in your browser
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2009): http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K6NdPrqgGt0
Check out this funny video on UTUBE about Facebook, this is
for you, dear.
Good Luck
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