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writes: I really need help! I have been going out with my boyfriend for just over a month, and I thought it was going really well. He always texts me, telling me that he loves me, and when he texts me he says the sweetest things. But then I suddenly realized last week, he NEVER talks to me! Ever! By text, he is like this completely different person, but on the phone or face to face, he just gets all embarrassed and doesn't talk to me. I have discussed this with him and he keeps saying he will talk to me at school and stuff, but he never does. Surely this isn't what a relationship is meant to be like! Should I dump him? Or should I wait to see if things get better? HELP!
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reader, thatgothgirl20  +, writes (22 October 2008):
 He's inexperienced, yall are both young. Yes he's embarrassed. The boy don't know what the hell to say. Stop worrying about it. He doensn't know, just like you don't know.
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reader, icelordess + ♥, writes (22 October 2008):
 I think he's probably just very shy, and perhaps doesn't know what to say, or is afraid of saying something wrong or dumb, so he'd rather not say anything at all. Don't give up on him just yet..just try to draw him out into a conversation. What does he like? sports? what's his favourite tv show? Try to get him to talk about something that he has a passion for. My mate is very quiet and can say very little, and that's just normal for him, until you get him talking about a passion of his, and then he won't shut up! LOL. Keep trying ok? Some people can be very open and expressive with words in an email or text because they aren't looking at you, and they have time to think about what they want to say, unlike a face to face conversation, or a phone conversation. Its just the way that they are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): It sounds like he is simply shy. I know many people who can't bear using the telephone. Some people express themselves better in writing because they find saying things really difficult.
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reader, encryptionKING  +, writes (21 October 2008):
 ok....
how can you be in love with him an dating him if you never speak??? O.o
surely if you dont ever speak to him it means something
also maybe he just does not know what to say...
start a topic with him, eg.school work or whatever really,
might help
cheers
king
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 October 2008): Give the guy some time. He is probably a little shy and uncomfortable.
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reader, Spanner28  +, writes (21 October 2008):
 You havent actually said how old your boyfriend is but by the sounds of it he is very timid and not very open about his feelings. When we send a text it is what we feel..in writing, being vocal is an entirely different story because you can hear the emotion is their voice, the same goes if you are with them in person. In a text for example you could be abseloutely fuming with someone but say something really nice..you are none the wiser. If this is bothering you so much i suggest you have a long deep talk with him and tell him you want more contact. I wouldn't dump him though at least give him the chance but if it carries on like this i would suggest leaving the relationship. A relationship cannot be built on text messages
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