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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. He works at a shop and basically, he's his own boss. He can make his own schedule, work whatever days, and any hours. I work at a pizza restaurant and have absolutely no control over my schedule. So, the days I work are the days that I have to work. But, my schedule is consistent and it never changes. My boyfriend will make his schedule so that he'll work the days that I have off and either take off the days that I work, or "conveniently" will get out of work the minute that I have to go into work. What does this mean? I've talked to him about this multiple times and he'll just roll his eyes and say that I'm being ridiculous. I even got so upset one time, I asked him if he was cheating! He's not but, I don't know, I just want to spend time with him. It's the summer and I want to go out and DO something. But Every time I bring this up to him, he gets annoyed so there's really like no bringing it up anymore at this point. I just don't know what to do. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 June 2016):
 Stop sharing your bed with this man, he is not interested in a relationship with you, he only wants sex without having to take you out on dates or without even making an effort. He uses work as an excuse not to have to see you during the day. I am sorry to have to say this to you but he is using you for his own benefits.
It is simple tell him you are not happy any more. Tell him you want more, he has made it clear he is not willing to change. You deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 June 2016): Why don't you try this for the next month? Instead of asking him what day you and he can get together, just make your own plans with friends. That's right, leave him out entirely of your plans. Don't tell him what you're doing, don't ask him what he's doing, just go ahead and make your own plans. If he does ask you to do something during the day and you are free then by all means hang out with him.
And stop being so available at night, make plans then too for the evenings. If he wants a girlfriend, he's going to have to learn, maybe the hard way, that he needs to put some effort into spending quality time with you. If the only time you spend together is in bed, you're not a girlfriend you're a sex toy. Sorry
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 June 2016):
 Like I said... if he only sees you at night, that just confirms what I said. He wants a lover, a mistress, a no strings attached casual sexual hook-up. He has no interest in an actual relationship. Hence, night time activities are fine. Day time activities are not of interest to him.
How to go about saying it? You say this: "Sweetie, as much as I enjoy you keeping my bed warm, Im looking for a relationship during the day time as well. So it's time for you and me to part ways, so that I can find someone else. Take care and bye bye!"
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2016): Also, we see each other every NIGHT, but we never actually do anything because I wanna do something during the day, like going swimming!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2016): How should I come about doing this? I know you guys are probably right. But what exactly should I say?
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reader, chigirl +, writes (14 June 2016):
Break up. He's not in this relationship, only you are, If he can't make himself available to see you, then why are you calling it a relationship? Sounds more like he just wants to keep you as his booty call. Get sex, but never have to invest any time in actually being with you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 June 2016): Its just been 10 months...move on!
Men show you how they feel about by their actions and by not seeing you, the 10 month 'boyfriend' has already given you his answer.
Easy goes as easy come.
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