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writes:I'm going to apologize ahead of time for the long story :/Ok, so i like this guy alot, and he likes me too, but everyone says he is such a player because he is a big "flirt" according to some people but he really isnt, and he is actually looking for a serious relationship and is really sweet. Ok so my problem is that one of my best friends was like all happy for me and like he so likes you and stuff like that but she tried to stir up drama by telling me that while i was cheering at a football game, he kissed one of my other best friends twice and i got mad and me and him talked about it after the game and turns out it didnt happen, and everyday at lunch, me and him used to hang out and he always used to give the best hugs, but now he is always hanging out with her and like wont call me anymore and very rarely hangs out with me, as if im not even there anymore. i dont know what to do because she is one of my best friends, but she is flirting with the guy i like that still likes me too and is always with him and never really lets me and him hang out anymore. please help me cuz im at a lost %100 and i want to cry all the time :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2010): I'm actually in the same situation. I've been hooking up with him a few times, yet she continuously flirts with him right in front of my face. He's really social so he carries on the conversation. I don't know if he's flirting back or not, but it still really upsets me. She ditched going to a chem review session with me tonight, saying she was going to study calc. But her roommate said she went upstairs to change into a nicer outfit because she's meeting a guy in the lounge (where we always hang out with my guy). I've spent the whole day with mixed emotions- from angry, to anxious, to upset, to sick to my stomach, and now I'm just emotionally drained. I'm planning on confronting her in half an hour telling her that her actions have been hurting my feelings. I want to get her side of the story before deciding whether or not to continue with that guy.
As for your issue, try to do the same thing and confront her (not angrily becusae shell just get defensive). Say how she upset you and that your friendship means more to you than a stupid guy. As for the guy, if he's making you so upset, he's not worth your time because you're just gonna be upset the rest of the time. Know that you're worth more and deserve better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 September 2010): my friend is doing something similar to me. except i guess the situations different because she told me he said he liked her. they've been hanging out for almost two months, but he won't ask her out. and he's not hanging out with her as much anymore. i think if your friend keeps acting the way she is, he'll get annoyed. especially if you tell him how you feel and that you think she's trying to separate the two of you.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (25 September 2010):
 She is not a friend if she is going to do that to you, forget her she is not worth it, as for this guy tell him the next time you see him that you need to talk to him alone, tell him how you feel and tell him you dont understand why he isnt the same way as he used to be with you, as its a possibility that your 'best friend' could have lied to him to get him not to like you anymore.
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