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writes: One of my best friends is a great friend, but she discriminates against gay and bi people. Our other friend says she might be bi and when my best friend found out,she says, "Eww,that's nasty. Let's not hang around her". Best friend knows, but still hangs aroundother friend. I'm great friends with my other friend, and I don't care what she is,as long as she's a goodfriend. Best friend still hangs around other friend, and doesn't treat her any different.Should I stop hanging around best friend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to everyone who gave me their advice.I reallyappreciate it and would love to hear from you agin if I have another problem.Bye!
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reader, Susan Strict  +, writes (2 June 2008):
 Tolerate her views, even though you know she's wrong.
Sure, some people find it uncomfortable to be around someone who is gay - in exactly the same way that some people find it uncomfortable to be around someone who is disabled, or someone who is a Christian, or someone who is a Muslim, or someone who is white, black, yellow, green or purple with pink spots. It's her problem if she has a prejudice and her loss that she will miss friendships of a very large number of really great people, but that doesn't mean it has to be your problem too. Equally, it doesn't mean that you have to stay away from her.
Treat it as if this view of hers, her dislike of gay people, was a disability she has. You aren't going to disciminate against her because she has this mental disability, but you aren't going to agree with her either. You aren't going to try to force your views on her, and you aren't going to let her force hers on you. If she wants to walk away and you don't, then you politely tell her "no, I'm quite happy here, thanks." That's all there is to it.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 June 2008):
You don't need to cut her out of your life, but just make it clear that you think she's a bit backwards when she says something prejudiced.
Make fun of her if she does it, make her out to be a religious nut job or be sarcastic and say "Ooooh, yeah, we might catch the GAY from them!!"
Teach her that it is Not Cool to hold views like that as they will hold her back in the world.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, karinana  +, writes (2 June 2008):
 Unfortunately everyone is entitled to their own opinions. My recommendation is to try to enlighten your misguided friend, you don't need to stop hanging out with her. But if she says something offensive, you should say so if you disagree.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks such great heights.I really appreciate it!
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