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writes:Hi everyone,i love all my confidential friend because they always support me when needed.I need more help than ever,i have been in a relationship for 5 years,i love the guy so much,he was my first and we are very confident to each other.At a certain time, we had the best relationship;when we get mad we always find a way of working things out.he respect me,he would not do anything to hurt me;but one day he told me that one of my friend had a crush on her and he start to change behavior.we keep trying on working things out until i got pregnant.I am a good woman,i do not believe in cheating and i do not want to be ashame of myself.When i called him and tell him i was pregnant,he walks away and told me he was cheating with my friend and he can not let that go.i broke up silently with him because i did not have the heart to tell him its over.he kept on visiting me while i was pregnant but we would not get too close because i started to lose feelings for him.when i was 6 to 7 months pregnant,i stop all conversation with him.i had my baby on my own,i take care of everything,and go back to school.I never let myself down for him eventhough he was my first.After 15 months,he met me again and beg for my forgiveness.i loved him too much not to do that,i forgave him and decided to go back to him but i would not let him be in my son 's life until i believe he will be a responsible man.we live in florida and he lost his job while we were back together.( remember that i was still a single mother eventhough we were together).I help him to move to texas to get a job,i try to assist him in everything and i promise him that we will get married when we want.while he was in Texas,he spent two months without calling me,and he told me that he did not have communication access.within that two months,i get dicorraged and i start dating someoneelse.the new guy treat me better,i even bring him to my family already,but i am afraid because i do not know too much about him yet.while dating this new guy, my old boyfriend call me again and trying to explain to me the reason we did not hear from each other for 2 months.i was so upset that i would not listen to him;then i am in a dating process.I got confuse and i do not know if i should take him back or keep moving on.All my family hates my firstbyfriend because he broke my heart and left me with a baby,but the all love the new guy kz the think i can be more successful with him.please help me lead my life to the right way.i hate faillure,and i cannot cheat.its one or the other.Please help
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2012): No problem and thanks for your responce, glad i can help and once again good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks to CTR,i appreciate your time and i love your answer.i was thinking as you answered ,and all my advisors told me related things,but i was confused.thanks once again for taking your time to read my journal.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 August 2012): Im not even gonna read and take a shot based on the title of what you said. Babies father looks all negative and new guy sounds positive, id say new guy.
Now let me read........
Well he has cheated and im sure you dont want to be looking after two kids at once. Not trying to dis your first love but you even said he needs to be more responsible and with lack of trust thats what itll be like.
This first relationship is in a deep hole and seems to be digging itself deeper. Your family is right that was a hell of a selfish thing to do to not even offer the support of your own child. He completely abandoned you by yourself.
It is hard to move on when you care about someone so i know it is hard, especially with what you two once were, but you two aint that anymore. Things change and life is to short, you need to move on, he hasnt been there for your child anyway. You sound like a capable woman to me that deserves better than him, and this new guy sounds good and its always a plus when the family likes your partner.
Sorry if thats what you dont want to hear but its just my opinion, just trying to be honest. Wish you the best of luck with your baby.
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