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writes:All MomsMy 16 year old daughter is dating someone 38! I have told her and him both what I think of this situation. I realize that legally I can't do anything about it, as here you only have to be 14 to concent to sex and at 16 she could move out. But i will only tolerate it because she seems very happy. He really adores her and is good to her. Kind and giving and happy. I want to know if anyone else has gone through this. She is a great kid does not give me any other problems. Reply to this Question
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (8 April 2008):
 Dear anonymous, I know how hard it must be for you to just let it happen. Unfortunately, you can't do anything else.
Just make sure she learns from the experience and doesn't get too bitter about it. And perhaps you should make it clear why you don't like the relationship, without interfering, so she can't blame you on the failure of her relationship. Because she would, and perhaps the worst result of all this could be that she goes through all the pain and doesn't learn anything.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 April 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey, thanks for all your input. I am a single mom and am doing the best I can. She is on birth control and i have spoken to her about protection. I know that i hope she remembers all the advice and uses it when the time comes. My sister is giving me a hard time over this, but she is not in my shoes! Thanks again, i am very close with my daughter and hope she doesn't get too hurt in the end.
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reader, Danielepew +, writes (7 April 2008):
I'm not a mother, but I think I can say a few words. It is clear that a man who is 38 is not on the same wavelength as your daughter. Or so I hope; if he were, then he would be some man. So we can suspect that this relationship is only physical for him, and maybe it is safe to assume that your daughter is in it for real.
I'm sorry to say that it seems to me that you're doing all you can. You have already spoken to both of them and they are still in the relationship. Obviously they won't break up just because you disapprove of their being together. The law isn't on your side this time, so I think your hands are tied.
It is perhaps best that you tolerate the relationship to exist in open air. If you didn't, they would be together anyways, but you wouldn't have the chance to know what is going on.
It seems that all you can do is wait until the bubble bursts. Your daughter will go through a lot, but you can't save her.
I would insist, however, in her using contraception.
Good luck with this one.
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reader, Dr Vendetta  +, writes (7 April 2008):
 I'm only gonna say this.
love it or hate it.
get her on the pill.
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