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*ml1232
writes:Ok, ready for a novel? Well about 2 1/2 years ago a I met a girl. We became really close throughout time spent talking, basically telling each other anything with complete trust. We became best friends but i kept having feelings for her Unfortunately I kept them to myself. She kept giving me signs but, at the time i was too dumb and immature to realize them. I mean I was only in 10th grade. One sign I do remember is during one of our many late night conversations over aim. She said she was reading a magazine and it said a statistic about how many best friends fall for each other. And i asked "what about us?". She answered with maybe and a winking face. Now two weeks go by me not acting upon it and sitting back because i was scarred. Well we go to a friends birthday party and she meets a guy there(which i knew was bad news). I desperately advise her against it, but she doesn't listen. She talks to him and the end up going out. I was kicking my self over it. So she always texted me about what this person did to her and how upset she was. I always calmed her down and had long conversations. Well i got frustrated with it because i knew i could treat her better but, she kept going back. I ended tearing myself away from her. I forgot about her for about 2 months. I didn't even talk to my old friends(we all hung out with each other) because i started hanging out with a new group. Then after that i honest to god, thought about her ever day. Now fast foward about a year and half later. I start to hang out with everyone again including her. We started getting really close again and talked to each other almost everyday. She always texted me first. All of a sudden she stopped texting first so, i started texting first. But she kept giving me one word answers and cut the conversation short. I am madly in love with her, but i am disheartened. This is because i fear that were in the dreaded friends zone, which is death for guys. I don't know what to do because i dont want it to ruin our friendship and make it awkward between us.
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reader, nml1232 +, writes (5 July 2009):
nml1232 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks for the advice
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reader, nml1232 +, writes (5 July 2009):
nml1232 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the advice :). I'll try it out.
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reader, tickles +, writes (4 July 2009):
Don't bother about who texts who first. Maybe because she always text first, she wants to see if you would initiate the text. I am laughing because I do this but it is really silly. Text her if you want to.
One word answers are funny because it could mean she is busy but doesn't want to ignore you. Talk to her and find out if everything is okay with her first. Then find out if everything is okay between the two of you. Show her you care.
I have known persons who have been best friends for year and only lately become lovers. Everything takes time. Did you find out how she still feels the same way about you? Keep giving it a try and do something sweet for her. As I said show her how much you care by doing things for her. But don't over do it if you don't want things to be awkward. Just in case she doesn't quite feel the same way anymore.
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