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| | Wintry's profile:I'm an 18 yr old female. I like helping people out because I was raised that way. I experienced a lot of death in the space between my 17th birthday and my 18th, those which include the death of my father on my 17th, my mother, my brother and 9 of my friends, most of which committed suicide or were at the hands of someone else. I'm going to study psychology and broaden my writing skills, as I want to be a writer one day. I've dealt with rape, abortion and a pretty extreme break up. I'll open my heart to you and lend a shoulder and an ear. I am also pagan/wiccan. I live in South-Africa with my cat Aura... wintry8@gmail.com |
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How do I split my time between my boyfriend and friends?
Q. Hello, right well i have this prolem, me and my two best mtes were so so close done everything together, tld each other everything but then i got a boyfriend, i hve never felt like thid for anyone before, he means everything to me but so do the girl...
A. 27 November 2008: I had the same problem when I started dating my bf.. It'll come naturally after awhile. Don't worry about it and just go with the flow. Plan a weekend with the girls, right away, so they don't think you are neglecting them, then spend the next ... (read in full...)
I plan to propose to my girlfriend - how do you find this scenario?
Q. Hello, I plan on proposing to my girlfriend, she knows i want to marry her as we have talked openly about it, but she dosent know when im going to ask her. she is away at college at the moment and has been begging me for a puppy, so i plan on buy...
A. 20 November 2008: Aww that's so sweet. You should really do that. It would be cute if you actually got a tag that says "Will you marry me?" to put on the collar as well... (read in full...)
My wife said she cheated on me to get even, then said they only kissed, I don't know what to believe or do?
Q. Well here it is, I made a Huge mistake by meeting someone on the internet and it went way farther than i expected it to go anyway she found out about it and eventually i admitted to everything, i did cheat and am Very Sorry for it its been about 6 ...
A. 20 November 2008: I agree with the previous answer. You guys just don't have any trust. Why cheat in the first place? Neither of you would've cheated if your marriage was built on honesty and trust and most of all love. See a counselor, and work on being open and ... (read in full...)
Ladies: Would you wear a ring on your left ring finger if you're single?
Q. This question is for the ladies. Oh man :)... crushes really are unavoidable aren't they? It's a like a slow motion car crash and it just keeps building every time you see her and there's nothing you can do about it. So she's got what looks l...
A. 19 November 2008: I wear a ring on my left hand all the time. even when i was single.. it kinda keeps men away you know. but then again i work in a bar so its like a safety precaution.. but i moved it to my right hand when i was interested in a guy.... (read in full...)
The guy I'm dating is a Christian while I was raised as a pagan, when and how do I tell him?
Q. Hey guys, Wow i haven't had to ask for advice in ages!!! But desperate times call for desperate measures. Here's the deal: I've just started dating this amazing guy, we've been together for about a month now and everything is going extremely ...
A. 16 November 2008: Well I'm allowed to date whoever I want in my religion, I just don't know if he, as a christian will be okay with dating a non-christian... I'll be telling him in the coming week... Stressing myself into a coma over here, coz this guy is absolutely, ... (read in full...)
The guy I'm dating is a Christian while I was raised as a pagan, when and how do I tell him?
Q. Hey guys, Wow i haven't had to ask for advice in ages!!! But desperate times call for desperate measures. Here's the deal: I've just started dating this amazing guy, we've been together for about a month now and everything is going extremely ...
A. 15 November 2008: Yeah but how do I tell him?... (read in full...)
What exactly does "love" mean to you?
Q. heya, A friend of me asked me this, and i want to get some of your opinions on it... but can you tell me...? What exactly is love? I know... kinnda a big question... but i want to see what other people think it is :) And i dont really want the d...
A. 16 September 2008: I see love as being able to fight with that special someone and still want them in your life after that. Respecting the other ones decision and accepting all their flaws. It means having your heart warm up with all the little, idiotic things they do ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant after being raped and don't know if I should keep the baby or abort it
Q. A while ago I was at a party and after one too many drinks I went back to a friends house with a load of people. We all carried on drinking and me and a guy ( a friend of my friend) went up to one of the bedrooms. We started kissing and then he ...
A. 16 September 2008: Hi honey,
I know from experience how traumatising rape can be. It's extremely devastating to tell your parents that you were raped, or even your friends. I don't know when exactly this happened or where you live, but it might not be too late to ... (read in full...)
Circumstances are stopping me from breaking up with him for the moment, should I wait a little longer?
Q. ive been with my (first serious) boyfriend for a year and a half and until a few weeks ago have been very happy, suprising some friends as most people wouldnt automatically have put us together. we come from very different families and have very ...
A. 31 August 2008: Break up with him now. Rather let him be hurt now than when you're away at school. It will give him time to get over you and leave the possibility of still being friends with each other.
If you really wait, you might not even break up with him... (read in full...)
I cancelled the wedding because I don't think we know each other enough., but he ended up heartbroken. What should I do?
Q. i was going to get marry in july and I cancelled everything becuase i wasnt sure about getting marry and my boyfriend is always blaming me, he said that I hurted him alot. what should i do? i met my boyfriend by myspace we got engangage by the...
A. 30 August 2008: Marriage? Well my ex and I would have gotten married, I said no though and it followed an extremely bad breakup. Face it, sometimes even if you want to marry that special someone, the time just isn't right. Of course he is heartbroken, he ... (read in full...)
I told a serious lie four years ago to make friends, now I'm concerned they'll find out about it!
Q. Okay Basically when i started year 7 i found it hard to make friends. I told a serious lie at the time thinking it would make me more liked and get me more attention. I really regret it now. I am now going into year 11, and my closest friends still ...
A. 28 August 2008: You need to tell them you lied. Tell them that you value their friendship and that you weren't thinking when you lied to them (which I hope you weren't).
You need to come clean about this, or it will bother you more than neccessary.
They mi... (read in full...)
Dating for 2 years. He is a teacher and I still have 6 months left at school. Should we break it off?
Q. I'm 18 and my bf is 20. We hav been dating 4 2years now. Problem is, he teaches at my school(the uni he is at recommended him for the arts and technology teacher). he only teaches 8th and 9th graders. i only hav 6 months of school left bt all our ...
A. 19 June 2008: haha i wont run nuh uh! i jst wont. i make you smile tish coz im psycho. My therapist says i should keep telling myself i'm normal, people might start believing me. i think my life is taking a turn for the best! i just love it here!... (read in full...)
Dating for 2 years. He is a teacher and I still have 6 months left at school. Should we break it off?
Q. I'm 18 and my bf is 20. We hav been dating 4 2years now. Problem is, he teaches at my school(the uni he is at recommended him for the arts and technology teacher). he only teaches 8th and 9th graders. i only hav 6 months of school left bt all our ...
A. 18 June 2008: Haha i'm absolutely thriving. But tisha you're not getting rid of me yet!! thanx evry1! ... (read in full...)
Dating for 2 years. He is a teacher and I still have 6 months left at school. Should we break it off?
Q. I'm 18 and my bf is 20. We hav been dating 4 2years now. Problem is, he teaches at my school(the uni he is at recommended him for the arts and technology teacher). he only teaches 8th and 9th graders. i only hav 6 months of school left bt all our ...
A. 18 June 2008: We got clearance! We are so extremely happy! they just nodded their heads and said we could carry on cause he cant influence my marks! My therapist is very pleased about it because i was very down.... (read in full...)
Rules to dating a teacher? are there any?
Q. Okay, does anybody know the rules of dating a teacher? like, after you graduate and are 18, can you date them, or do you have to wait, will they automatically be fired if you are thier previous student?...
A. 16 June 2008: It should be fine once u graduated, tho u hav 2 be certain that he wants a relationship with you. If he does and he's willing to wait it out till you graduate, then go for it. But it would be wise to stay away and keep your distance now.... (read in full...)
I'm feeling low after failing a subject at school... What step should I take?
Q. I failed a subject in school...What do i do? I feel really bad....
A. 14 June 2008: Ha i can relate to that feeling. Clearing my head usually works for me. If you really did try your best, you just hav 2 know to put more effort in next time. you should go out or just do something that can take your mind off it. it doesnt help 2 ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for a partner to carry on 'pleasuring' after orgasm with it continuing to be enjoyable and then able to create another orgasm?
Q. ...When i think i am reaching then achieving orgasm my heartbeat and breathing becomes faster, the sensitivity increases and there is uncontrollable, like, twitching of my legs and well the pelvic area, this seems to build till i get a tingley pins ...
A. 14 June 2008: Hey, it is possible because most women have been blessed with multiple orgasms. Just ask your partner to switch techniques, that way, when a new sensation is experienced you wont be as sensitive as with the same sensation.... (read in full...)
I had an abortion and now I'm scared to think about having children.. is this feeling normal?
Q. I was wondering if any of you could help me. on the 29th of april 2007 i was raped in my brothers house when they broke in. a couple of weeks after that i found out that i was pregnant. my boyfriend supported me and stood by me through everything ...
A. 13 June 2008: Your flimsy 'advice' as u call it, is exactly what i need. ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion and now I'm scared to think about having children.. is this feeling normal?
Q. I was wondering if any of you could help me. on the 29th of april 2007 i was raped in my brothers house when they broke in. a couple of weeks after that i found out that i was pregnant. my boyfriend supported me and stood by me through everything ...
A. 12 June 2008: I appreciate what you say to me. Yes i have lost a lot of people at my age and truthfully i dont think i'll ever get over it. My family was loving and caring and to this day i still cant seem to of them any less than when i had them.
I found a ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion and now I'm scared to think about having children.. is this feeling normal?
Q. I was wondering if any of you could help me. on the 29th of april 2007 i was raped in my brothers house when they broke in. a couple of weeks after that i found out that i was pregnant. my boyfriend supported me and stood by me through everything ...
A. 12 June 2008: Thanx Tisha. You see i'm not thinking about having a family now, i want my life to be in order, finish school and uni first. i want my career 2 be successful and hav a best selling novel but i want my boyfriend to be there too. He says he's not ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion and now I'm scared to think about having children.. is this feeling normal?
Q. I was wondering if any of you could help me. on the 29th of april 2007 i was raped in my brothers house when they broke in. a couple of weeks after that i found out that i was pregnant. my boyfriend supported me and stood by me through everything ...
A. 12 June 2008: Thanx to all of you, and i'm sure my family wouldv supported me, my sister does and she is all i hav left aside from my boyfriend.. not that i'm asking 4 sympathy, i learnt how to deal with death on my own.evry1 has been so kind with my prev ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion and now I'm scared to think about having children.. is this feeling normal?
Q. I was wondering if any of you could help me. on the 29th of april 2007 i was raped in my brothers house when they broke in. a couple of weeks after that i found out that i was pregnant. my boyfriend supported me and stood by me through everything ...
A. 12 June 2008: Okay you see the thing is, i am seeing a therapist because of other situations and my boyfriend wont let me stop seeing her. we had a pregnancy scare a couple of months b4, just after he got the teaching post at my school. i told him i didnt want a ... (read in full...)
Dating for 2 years. He is a teacher and I still have 6 months left at school. Should we break it off?
Q. I'm 18 and my bf is 20. We hav been dating 4 2years now. Problem is, he teaches at my school(the uni he is at recommended him for the arts and technology teacher). he only teaches 8th and 9th graders. i only hav 6 months of school left bt all our ...
A. 12 June 2008: Thanx for all your support. I'm seeing the pta and governing body monday on their monthly meeting. We're hoping for the best, we wont break up. I really appreciate all the support you hav given me.... (read in full...)
Should I reach out and call him even though he's clearly ignored my last attempt to communicate with each other?
Q. Does anyone think that I should reach out to him? So I posted my story on here a few days ago - and have gotten great responses! But...still confused what I should do next. Here's the post for background: So...long story short, I was dati...
A. 12 June 2008: You should think about it, maybe by avoiding you he thinks you'll contact him. It could be that he's playing hard to get. My bf once said that men want attention but not clinginess. i suggest surprising him with a good morning text. and maybe an ... (read in full...)
Dating for 2 years. He is a teacher and I still have 6 months left at school. Should we break it off?
Q. I'm 18 and my bf is 20. We hav been dating 4 2years now. Problem is, he teaches at my school(the uni he is at recommended him for the arts and technology teacher). he only teaches 8th and 9th graders. i only hav 6 months of school left bt all our ...
A. 12 June 2008: Well just to update my situation... He phoned me about 15min ago just after he talked to the principal. I now hav 2 go to school 2day eventhough i am on study leave. Apparently the principal cant give us clearance on our relationship. We hav to take ... (read in full...)
How can I tell my boyfriend I want a baby?
Q. hi well i nned some help im 18 and i want to have a baby...i love kids n i have been taking care of them sence i was 13..or maybe even younger..i just dont know how to tell my boyfriend that i want a baby..whats the easiest way to tell some one u ...
A. 12 June 2008: Firstly, I advise you to seriously take this whole matter into consideration. You are only 18 and have your whole future ahead of you. But i respect you for knowing you are ready to take that step in your future.
Secondly, when you and your bf hav ... (read in full...)
Dating for 2 years. He is a teacher and I still have 6 months left at school. Should we break it off?
Q. I'm 18 and my bf is 20. We hav been dating 4 2years now. Problem is, he teaches at my school(the uni he is at recommended him for the arts and technology teacher). he only teaches 8th and 9th graders. i only hav 6 months of school left bt all our ...
A. 12 June 2008: Thanx Smiles. Marissa i dont think you fully understand. We started dating before he got the teaching post. we started dating in his last year of high-school. and cnme on, someone my age? there is only a 2yr age gap.... (read in full...)
Dating for 2 years. He is a teacher and I still have 6 months left at school. Should we break it off?
Q. I'm 18 and my bf is 20. We hav been dating 4 2years now. Problem is, he teaches at my school(the uni he is at recommended him for the arts and technology teacher). he only teaches 8th and 9th graders. i only hav 6 months of school left bt all our ...
A. 11 June 2008: Thanks, but its difficult. he said he'll take it up with the principal 2moro. wish us luck!... (read in full...)
I think my sisters boyfriend is hitting her!!!! What should I do?!?!
Q. Hey Everyone Im asking this for my sister, because i believe that her boyfriend is hitting her, but she won't leave him, even though she admitted that he has hit her in the past, but stopped after she walked out, since then she went back and mo...
A. 11 June 2008: Hey, i know what it feels like 2 stand on the sidelines. my sister is married to a man who abuses her and her children. it could be that he threatens her now and has a hold over her. ask ur sis if u can spend a weekend at her place, check out the ... (read in full...)
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