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writes:Hi, what does everybody think of mixed relationships, i.e mixed race relationships? Do you think that even in today's society, it is ok for lets say an Asian woman to date a white man, or a black girl to date an Italian etc etc. I ask because I find that I seem to be attracted more to men of other races, but I havent dated outside my race cos I am worried that people wil think I am not proud of who I am. Do you think races should stick with their own, or does it not really matter?Thanks for your time. Reply to this Question
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reader, shaina  +, writes (9 May 2008):
In my views I think it is ok.It is all about that individual i think ,race has nothing to do with love.If u love a person go ahead.I know it will be bit hard to adjust but dont we adjust and compromise in our own family??Relationship should be healthy,there will be times when people who are married in their own race are struggling with their relationship.
Foundation of the relationship should be strong ,at the end of the day we all are human beings ...
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2008): Actually, the bible itself states many people in mixed racial relationships, one of the most famous, Moses, is said to marry an ethiopian (black) woman. So, Religious people don't practice what they preach ether.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): this is probably totally irrelevant, but i find mixed couples produce the most beautiful offspring...that's gotta count for something right?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 November 2007): i am currently dating a black guy and i am white, why do so many people have a problem with mixed race relationships? i have read comments on some website where people say that people should date people of their own race, fair enough that is their opinion but realisticly, color is only skin deep and as long as the person is treating you right well, theres no problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2006): i met an asian woman,fell in love, and she with me.so thats natural,normal, human life.love does not choose white/black/brown/orange etc. the heart does. we are so very happy and thats all that counts.if anyone has a prob with that,then tough.bye peter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2006): like they said there is nothing wrong with going out with someone of a diff race! I mean Im half black and Native American and I love myself but just beware if you do decide to date outside your own race not everyone will be so excepting becaue they are still ingnorant and Ive been with both my mom and dad and had some really mean things yelled at me but that just makes you stronger so go ahead and enjoy dating someone of a different race plus you get to learn about there culture: )
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reader, Aunt Audrey +, writes (29 May 2006):
 In my opinion love does not discriminate between race, creed or culture. If you love someone, respect them, their beliefs and their culture and are prepared for some compromise in the relationship, there's nothing wrong with mixed race relationships.
As long as you do not try to change that person into something or somebody they're not and they accept and love you in the same way and on the same terms there is no reason it shouldn't work.
Religion can sometimes be a problem if a couple is of different faiths, but as long as you both know what is expected from the beginning and the subject can be dicussed openly I see no reason why a couple can't have a happy life together.
Good luck!
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reader, Smiler +, writes (28 May 2006):
 Hey there
there is absolutely nothing wrong with mixed race relationships people all over the world are in mixed raced relationships and are very happy one famous example is dawn french and lenny henry happily married for 10 or more years now have 3 lovely kids.....
so get out there and have some fun...
good luck
You Take Care X
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2006): there is definantly nothing wrong with couples being diff. races my mom is white and my dad is black they havent had any problems at all! And me im white and black and my bf is mexican and white so we are just all mixed up! but it dosent matter the only thing that matters is if you love them. nothing in the world can break the bond of love.
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reader, matron +, writes (28 May 2006):
 Hi, there's far too much prejudice in the world and the only way to change that is by being who we are and living the life that we chose as individuals. We are born free to chose our own path in life it's society as a whole that often steers us off the path we chose. We dont fall for someone because of the colour of their skin etc our emotions decide who we are attracted to. If you are happy and content with the choices you make go for it, if people dont understand or dont think it's right thats their problem. Be happy.xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2006): Think of it this way, if you have a mixed race child it could enhance its health! Hybridizing two genetically diverse populations creates more genetic diversity, thus people from mixed races are less likely to suffer from so many terrible degenerative diseases that plague the western world.
If not for yourself, do it for your species and the survival of the human race... ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2006): I dont see anything wrong with mixed relationships. Dating outside of your race does not mean that you are not "proud" of who you are. You fall in love with whoever you fall in love with. Colour should not be an issue, but unfortunately we live in a stupid, racist society and skin colour is an issue. I mean what has colour really got to do with anything? The answer is jack, it has nothing at all to do with relationships. Just cos I am "dark" skinned why should it matter if I fall in love with a Causasian or an Asian or a European etc etc. People who have problems with it are idiots, thats all, total prats. Date who you want, and ignore people's views. God is a universal God, He isnt a Black God or a white God or a Chinese God, He made ALL colours so what is the problem......... I wish we all would MLK Jnr's dream and then we wouldnt have to ask questions liek this. Good day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2006): In this day and age It is a melting pot. It should not matter who you want to be with, LOVE is what we want in the end and color has nothing to do with it. Life is too short to bother with what other people might think. You live YOUR life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2006): To further my comment, I know quite a lot of caucasian people and 2nd and 3rd generation Indians that live and were born inside Hong Kong. So what do we call those people? I call them Asians. So how does that work then? A 'white man' falls in love with an 'Asian' woman. Sure, by shade, she's 'white', but she's Asian. How about Caucasian people born in South Africa? Hey, my parents are from Hong Kong. We're yellow skinned, BUT I am Canadian born. What does that make me? A yellow Canadian, or an Asian Canadian? Doesn't make sense now does it? I'm not Chinese - I wasn't born in China. Just as the many 3rd and 4th generation 'Japanese' people living here. What do we call them? "Japanese"? We can say they're Japanese descendants, but to refer to them as Japanese wouldn't be accurate. Also, they're not yellow skinned. Actually a lot of Chinese descendents are white skinned. So how does that work? A caucasian white American boy falls in love with an Asian Canadian white Japanese girl.
Wow, gets so complicated...
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2006): First of all, there is no black race, or white race, or whatever race. We're all the human race. Second, I don't care if an Asian marries a Nigerian, or an American with an Indonesian, or an Australian with an Egyptian. So long as they love each other and no harm comes to it, then fantastic. Unfortunately, there are a lot of 'racist' ignorants who live on this planet they we all 'share'.
Also about being proud, I think that's all bullshit. How are you proud of being a certain colour or shade? What does colour/shade represent? If you say "I'm proud to be Canadian", then great, you carry the leaf, and run around the world 'in peace'. However, if you say, "I'm proud to be black", what the hell does that mean? That I am "proud to be darker than everyone"? That I am "proud to be the colour of chocolate"?
Doesn't make sense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2006): I dont have any hangup's regarding mixed race relationships or homosexuality, Love is different for everyone of us,what we might attractive in one person is usually different for another. I know some people dont like mixed relationships as sometimes religion plays a part in it and i can understand the reasoning behind it as that is their faith.But if religion dont play a part in it then why shouldnt a couple start a mixed relationship if they truelly love each other and are happy that is the most important thing as life is too short.
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