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writes: HiI need some advice from someone who can help. A few weeks ago on a night out I met a man who I just clicked with. We talked for hours. Later on I found out he is a lot older than me I am 22 he is 40 but doesnt look it. He has been married before and he has kids. We have text loads and I am seeing him tonight. But I am scared. Am I doing the right thing? Should the age matter? I am totally inexperienced about these sorts of things and all I can think is what my parents and some of my friends would say. The friend I was out with says go for it but am just wondered what other people thought.Thanks.
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (20 November 2006):
 If you are just going out and having fun then great, go for it! If and when your relationship becomes serious, then you may need to look a little closer to the age gap. For instance would he want children with you etc.... But you don't need to worry about that right now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006): I am seeing a guy at work who is 40 (I am 22) and although we are in secret at work, it is a fantastic relationship (if a little sneaky). So my advice to you is that u only live once, and if you keep pleasing others you will never meet your own needs. Do what is good for you. If others don't agree - tough - it's your life! Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2006): it really really does not matter, age isnt an issue unless you let it be, if you like him and he likes you go for it.
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reader, its a mom +, writes (4 October 2006):
I disagree with all the people below me. Think about when you are 32 and he is 50. Or when you are 42 and he is 60. When you are 62 and still want to travel and such, he will be 80 - an old man!!
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reader, jo130 +, writes (3 October 2006):
me and mine are 10years difference... he is the oldest.. my advice is... why worry? if its meant to be it will be.. go with the flow and enjoy it!
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reader, David Lewis  +, writes (2 October 2006):
 It doesn't really matter what people think. It is an issue at first, but not really an important one.
I am 29, my partner is 17. I love her more than I have ever loved anybody and she says the same about me.
Age is just a number, age is unimportant. Your happiness is what really matters.
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reader, stina +, writes (2 October 2006):
 Hey Anon,
Even if he did look his age, it shouldn't matter. If you click, then you click. So, I agree with your friend - I say go out and have fun with this guy!
You can deal with what your friends and parents say when it comes up. But seriously, the only thing that should matter is if you're happy in the relationship and if he treats you well, right? Just because something like your relationship wouldn't work for them doesn't mean that it wouldn't for you.
Take care.
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