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writes:The question that I am going to ask get asked a lot, but this question is aimed at men particularly. When it comes to a future spouse no one wants marry a women that has lived a promiscuous lifestyle in the past. Would you marry a girl that never had any type of oral or anal sex, but had intercourse one time for a minute and told the man to stop. I know this is true because the first time I had sex with this girl her hymen was still there and she still bled. I love her and I know a lot of you think I'm even a douche for even asking this. I do to. It bothers me and I was still a part of her life when it happened. the main reason it happened was because of me. But would that be enough to not marry this girl? We have done everything since we have been together and we want to marry each other.
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reader, freeme +, writes (7 June 2011):
 OP - No, I don't think it would. But everyone has different values. I don't understand the need for her to be untouched. But to some people that seems to be very important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): Personally, I like to have sex before marriage to check out our chemistry in the sack. If I were her first or she just had sex for one minute with some other guy in the past, yes marriage is possible.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): It seems to me like you've asked this question here before, at least twice, so forgive me if I'm wrong.But, you are not understanding multiple issues."When it comes to a future spouse no one wants marry a women that has lived a promiscuous lifestyle in the past.Not true, when we marry because of true unselfish love and affection, the person we marry is the person we are seeking.Your sex life in the past is only a small part of who and what you are. You can marry a virgin queen, who is stunningly beautiful, nice as pie, and who can bake a cherry pie fast as a cat can wink it's eye, and it can be the worst mistake you will ever make...and you can divorce her in a month and then live 80 more years and regret it every single day of your life.You can marry an older promiscuous woman who has had 300 sexual partners, and be with her for 5 years before she dies in an accident, and miss her every single day for the rest of your life.I was married before, the woman had 2 sexual partners before me, she had a nice butt and figure overall, a nice smile, a great cook, intelligent, witty, etc. Our relationship ended over religion, and my refusal to convert to her religion.Today, I'm married to someone who is definitely not religious, was promiscuous, who has lots of "issues", but who is intelligent, attractive, and really was the "ideal" I'd been seeking in the important areas. Her sex life before me was/is not an issue. I am greatly glad that my prior relationship ended, because if it hadn't I would never have met this person who seems to be my "soul mate" if anyone truly could be.But, this is the problem..."male United States age 18-21, anonymous writes:"You are not old enough to be getting married in this day and age and with the life expectancy that we have. You need to mature, and if she is the same age she does as well, and perhaps she and you will be there together in 5 years and if you are then "MARRY THE GIRL AND TO HELL WITH THE PAST".
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFreeme- No I was talking about her past sexual history and all she has had was a little incident would that be enough to not marry her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2011): If you are put off by someone's sexual history, you are talking to the wrong group of people when you ask Dearcupid.
You could have asked, "Would you consider marrying someone even though she fucked 140 people last year?" and the tone of the answers would still be, "Of course you should still marry her! Her past is just the past."
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reader, freeme +, writes (6 June 2011):
I wouldn't get married if you are basing your decision on sex. Period.
I am not sure what you are asking here. Are you saying you would not want to be with a woman who won't have oral or anal sex with you?
If you love each other enough, and respect each other enough, the sex will work itself out.
If you are concerned that she has some sort of hang up about sex, then I would suggest you both get counseling before you get married if that scares you.
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