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writes:If you are in a long term relationship, is going into chat rooms posing as a single person classed as cheating?
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 October 2007): Hey I'm one of those women on the Internet that you lie to and to be honest it pisses me off big time! It starts in the chat room and leads to the Internet dating sites. What are women to you? Toys? Aren't women people to you? Are you such a narcissist that you can't see how much your behavior hurts so many people? Grow up and stop misrepresenting yourself. And to answer your question, YES it is cheating and in several ways.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): Even asking if that's okay makes you sound like a very untrusthworthy girlfriend. Yes, of course it is cheating.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 If you are doing it to protect your privacy I would say no. However if you are doing it to keep someone from knowing that you are in a relationship I would say a definate YES!!
I met someone once who did this all the time. Let me tell you it was awful. It was demeaning, embarrassing and hurtful. One lady he met was going to move here to be with him. She called the house one day and got I answered. It was my phone and our house.
Needless to say this woman was about to move here to be with him. We were still together in a relationship that spanned over 6 years. He played this game until we finally split up. I would hate to even guess how many women he did this to.
Some of the ladies were just that, ladies. Some were just out doing the same thing he was. Some married and some in long term relatioships. On alot of accounts it was all just alot of lies being told. I am single When he left he called me once to let me know that after he left me he went to another woman. Much to his surprise she never showed up to meet him. He found out she was MARRIED!! Hahaha!
The moral of the story is if you respect and value your current relationship you should never POSE as SINGLE. Always be direct and up front about the fact you are with someone and that you intend to remain that way. You are in chat to do just that. CHAT!!
I have many chat friends and you just have to know how to draw a line and set boundries in the chat rooms just as in any person to person situation. Something else for you to think about. You might be talking to your NEXT DOOR NEIGHBOR, YOUR PREACHER, YOUR MAN's BEST FRIEND, YOUR BUTCHER or just about anyone else in the world. So be cautious and be honest.
In the end if all else is said and done, even if no one knows you or what you are doing on the internet. God is watching you and you know what you are up to. Let God and your concious be your guide.
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reader, Yogichickk +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Some people cheat only because they can get away with it. My bf used to chat online with a female who liked to get undressed. I told him I did not like it. So instead of stopping it he stopped talking with her when I was around. When I found out, I had to pass a new law:"If you would not do it when I am in the room, don't do it behind my back."
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 YES.
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reader, Jamer70 +, writes (23 October 2007):
 it could be concieved as emotional cheating as martini said
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reader, Yogichickk +, writes (23 October 2007):
ask him/her "Why?" and you'll know how upset you should get. In all honesty, there is no point of going to a chat room and posing as "married". It takes all the fun away. Suggest him or her to go to a "Couples room" with you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): I would say that's borderline emotional cheating, unless your partner knows about this and accepts it.
The biggest thing in intimate relationships is open communication which will lead to trust and growth, or simply finding out that they're incompatible for each other.
However, you simply said you signed up for a chat room labelled as a single person. A chat room can be anything. In that case, it doesn't quite mean much. Though mind you, you do have the tenacity to want others to think you are single. There isn't anything adherently wrong here, but there is an obvious deception.
The question is, why do you want to deceive anyone?
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reader, rcn +, writes (23 October 2007):
 It is if you are attempting to attract people of an opposite sex.
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