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writes:Hi everyone, Couple of days back I came to know about this forum and finally decided to ask my problem. Actually I came to London about 1 and half years ago. I am married but I am living without family here... and it's been same time without having any sex... and even without masturbation (which is according to me really a bad habit). But during that time I have had a few wet dreams. Obviously I have had a real urge for the last 2 months which is getting out of control... unfortunately I am a very shy person... being a non native speaker is another problem to mix with local people.My question is because I have to stay another 1 year here anyway... what should I do...? I am worried about my sexual health.... Please can anyone advise me what should I should do...? Matsrubation...?Brothel...?or just wait../?but i am desprate thats for sure....ton of thanks in advance..
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reader, Ashbutt +, writes (22 March 2009):
Ashbutt is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi everybody,
I am so glad to read your suggestions...thanks a lot everybody specially anony,gina..and satindesire for your concern.
Let me tell you as soon I read all that I got my will power and I have decided to not to do any thing silly...not even mastrubation I can't do that...
God bless all of you..
Ash
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): satindesire, your response was to the T PERFECT.
i know a lot about the Islamic culture however I think that mastubation is not wrong in your situation, there are so many other sinful things out there. I know of people that are in a different country try to bring their wives over for a visit every now and then, maybe get her a permit (sorry i don't know the legalities of that)or perhaps you can go home sometimes.
I am so glad you do not want to cheat, so in my mind mastubation is the only quick relief. And do not feel guilty.
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reader, Damelvis  +, writes (21 March 2009):
Hi Mate!
Who the hell told you in the world that masturbations is something wrong !? Not it isn't!!You should be happy that you get this sexual feeling in your body becuase it means that you are probably normal and it is natural and good to be healthy and that you feel you want to be close with someone becuase you probably feel a little bit alone over there?? I know something about it becuase I lived in Uk and Sydney as a foreiner and know very well that if you are not english man over there people treat you as a stranger or even descriminate you..Don't worry about this try to be more active take some action and be calm!!
Damian
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): Great, great answers satindesire. Hope I can email you when I have problems. I love reading your answers. You are always on point.
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reader, rorowes  +, writes (21 March 2009):
 I am a realist, and mastubation is the only way to remain faithful to your wife, however be advised, that it could make the yearning greater. I agree with the other advisors, see if there's a way your wife can visit you or make the move for the duration of your stay.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2009): Masturbation is as normal and natural as anything else. If you keep holding out it will just happen in your sleep anyway so really what is the difference?
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reader, Ashbutt +, writes (21 March 2009):
Ashbutt is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks everybody...for reminding me all that specially satindesire....
thanks again guyz
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reader, Mr Me +, writes (21 March 2009):
 I'm pretty sure your spouse is definitely as lonely as you. Is there any possibility that she can join you in London, too?
Agreeing with anonymous, do not cheat!! It'll make things much, much worse! Brothel or not.
You should turn to masturbation. I know you look at it as a bad habit, but it will obviously relieve you from some much uneasy sexual tension. Also, so you know, masturbation is actually healthy for the body:
http://www.goaskalice.columbia.edu/0539.html
http://www.drweil.com/drw/u/id/QAA297851
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2009): I would recommend masturbation. Everybody does it, and while it may be against your beliefs, I'm almost sure that cheating on your spouse is worse. You might try phone sex if your spouse is up for it, who knows, they might be as lonely as you!
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