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writes:Hi all. Me and this married guy are "friends". We used to talk together a lot privately after work. He would stay back making extra time for me. He would always hold my eye contact for a long time whenever we saw each other. I caught him looking at me a few times when he thought I was not looking. He would be easily distracted when I was around. We had conversations that crossed some boundaries. For example, him asking me about past relationships, calling me "beautiful" and him making some sexual jokes in front of me. And after all of this, he has decided to distance himself from me and not pay as much attention.So, after we got close, he has pulled back and now I have followed his lead and I am doing the same thing.My question is why would he do all of this in the first place and then back away suddenly? Could he have feelings for me and is trying not to cross any lines because he is married? Because I do think he is very attracted to me physically and emotionally...Should I just ignore him back? How do I handle this with class and dignity? I don't want to get caught up in all the games...I know I would get used if I ever got involved with him but it does hurt very much. :( Have to admit. I am only human. Reply to this Question
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reader, Brokenv +, writes (16 April 2013):
Wow!!!! You are so lost. Move on. He is interested in one night and he is gaming a game of cat and mouse. Guess which one you are?
Have respect for yourself. Do not engage in such thoughts of lust with a married man. Lust is all it is. He is not interested in you as a professional woman, he is interested in how you can perform in the bedroom.
Good Luck!
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (15 April 2013):
 'I don't want to get caught up in all the games'
Ha ha ha , lady this is a very funny quote!!
YOU ARE PLAYING A GAME!!!!
You are just fooling yourself that you arn't!!!
Don't you realise that everytime he says something nice or provocative to you, he's probably giving himself a hard on???
It's got nothin to do with you!!! Your just the muse, the tool, the material that allows him to have a safe, covert ego boost!!! Then he's going to get bored, or apply the breaks when he doesn't want to go further...
This is where you get all steamed up, start second guessng him, start thinking of ways that draw him back in!!...You will offer whatever it takes to get his attention...and, my dear, he will take what ever you give and then dump you like a pile of poop!!
IT IS A GAME...IT IS ALWAYS A GAME and it ALWAYS has the same outcome!!!
STAY AWAY FROM MARRIED PEOPLE...ITS A WASTE OF GOOD TIME AND EFFORT!!!
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (15 April 2013):
 Even if he is interested in you, it will come to nothing as long as he is a married man.
Your ego is hurt, dont pursue him or a a relationship, you will end up feeling worst than you currently do as statistic have shown very few married men leave their wife for the msitress, and every mistress believes she is the exception.
Dont fret about it and move on and best is ignoring him for your own peace and sanity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2013): If you are just friends, none of what you have asked is important. Friendship is supposed to be platonic, not romantic.
What do you expect from a married man?
You are reading way too much into things. You are way too interested in a man who is already married.
It doesn't matter if he thinks you are attractive. It seems like he was treating you almost like 'one of the guys' until something made him pull away. Maybe you seemed too interested?
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