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51-59,
*oe37
writes:I am Joe, I have been married to my wife Hannah for 17 years and we have 2 great kids, I am also gay or bi. I had a few times had sex with men in high school and college, but when I met Hannah who is so beautiful we got married and the feelings for men went away, but two years ago my sexual urges for other men resurfaced, and I have been having sex with several other men the past two years, one of them is my son’s best friend who is 19. Him and I have been seeing each other regularly for sex, we go to his house or my house or we go to a hotel. But sometimes when he isn't available I seek other men. My wife and I still have sex but it is less lately, but I am in trouble, a former male assistant that I was having sex with is suing me for money. I do love my wife and my family, Should I tell my wife and kids?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2008): woahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. I'm 19 and man thats wow.
About the seeing men get tested and get counseling.
Tell your wife and kids but don't tell them about your son's friend, just end it now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): You must tell your wife the truth because to hear from someone else will just destroy her. You have been selfish and broken the trust of a family home - you should never have had sex there. Of course cheating is cheating whether gay, straight or whatever. Tell her. Have a plan to move out. Protect your children. Get counselling for yourself.
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reader, iloveyoubrian11 +, writes (28 November 2008):
 tell your wife that your bi
becasue i dont think your gay
if you love you wife
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): You are in a very difficult position here Joe37, I would suggest that you tell your wife what is going on rather than let her find out. Also you have been putting her at risk of STD's and worse by having sex with other partners. Does she really deserve this? The sad part is that in this matter she and your kids are going to hurt a lot more than you are! Imagine how your son is going to feel when he finds out you are having an affair with his best male friend??
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2008): I think what you have been doing to your family is going to hurt them very much but it is time to inform them before they discover the horrible truth from outsiders.
To cheat on your wife is terrible and with your sons friend! How bad can it get? You will have to prepare yourself that they are not going to take the news very lightly and they might need time to work through the dissapointment. I do hope they will be able to forgive you.
Yes, the least you can do is to be honest with them.
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