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female
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36-40,
*aridisepassion
writes:I created a fake page after 2 weeks of breaking up with my ex boyfried to view his facebook which he has blocked and never added me as a friend before. The thing is I did it twice when we was together created a fake page and he caught me twice..I just want to see why he broke up with me and what he said..he likes to express eve ything on there,.But I don't really want to see that he's moved on or all tbe other negative thingsHe has a new default pic of a girl taking a picture of him in the background..its only two weeks weve been broken up..Im curious but then im content..I fear he might know its me..and im trying my best to look not needy and mature like I do not need him..but if he suspects I could be ruining myself..I still have some hope..he will return..He told me when he broke up with me that he's too young and im right..and that I need attention and he can't give me that also he can't be with me at all..and he's not the one for me..Should I stick to no contact and move on..which is hard but getting beter..or should I kill my curiosity and send him that fake page requests..I sent the fake requests two days ago then took it off..felt guilty..Help I feel awful :(
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 No contact. Move on to someone who can give you what you need, instead of hoping that someone just adequate will come back to you.
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reader, fishy fish +, writes (4 December 2010):
Hey sweety, he already told you taht he can't give u the attention ur asking for and he's not the one for you, he was blunt but honest, i know it's very hard but as you said it's getting better! don't send the request and stay away from his facebook, trust me , facebook ruined my relation with my boyfriend and we broke up because of it! try to move on and forget about him , he was honest and staright to the point he didn't manipulate you so you must feel liberated from further pain and try to disconnect and stay out of touch till u find someone else and move on properly! don't send him request dear please, whether he finds out it's you or not is not the point, what matters is ur happiness and sanity! move on and start a new chapter with someone who shares ur love ! good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): You have a right to know why he broke up with you, but your going about it in the wrong way.
Can you not approach him in person, ring or text him.
He seems very immature if he expresses him self to the whole web and blocks ex girlfriends?
I think you deserve someone who is less of an attention seeking boy.
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reader, jenna0727 +, writes (4 December 2010):
 I think it is best that you just move on and break contact with him. You said that he had NEVER added you as a friend on Facebook despite the fact that you were his girlfriend? I hope I read that correctly and if so, then that should have been a huge red flag. If he didn't want to friend you on Facebook even then I'm sure it was because he was doing things behind your back. Or something along the lines of that.
Anyway, even if the above is nowhere close to what your relationship was like, you need to move on. It's only going to drive you crazy and it's just not good to obsess over something like that. It's just a fact of life and this is what happens. He has his reasons for not wanting to be your boyfriend anymore (even if he was not entirely truthful about them). If you were in his shoes, would you want him to stalk you like that?
Ultimately you are showing that you are IMmature and needy (two characteristics you didn't want to appear as being in the first place) if you continue to stalk him. Just move on. I know it's hard at first, but life goes on. You will be fine. You just need to give it some time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 December 2010): Making a fake facebook page and spying on him isn't healthy. It will just hold you back from moving on, which is what you need to do.
Stay off your computer for a while. Go out with friends, go for walks, get a new hobby. Anything to occupy your mind and stop you obesessing.
Do you really want to risk seeing something on his profile that's going to hurt you? What about if he gets a new girlfriend and there's loads of pictures of them together or her writing on his wall telling him how much she loves him?
You won't get answers by looking at it, just pain.
Move on and find something else to concentrate on.
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