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writes:Hey I don't know if anyone can help me, but I'm feeling a lot of stuff and just want to get it out. So, here's the situation. I recently fell in love with my best friend, and don't really know how to handle it. Especially considering the fact that she moved a couple states away for school recently making any kind of relationship out of the question. It's crazy because while she's beautiful, smart, and outgoing I never really believed there was ever an iota of interest in me on her part, so from the very beginning of our relationship I only saw her as a friend. That was until she started casually dropping hints that she was into me. This revelation made me look at her as more than just a friend and the more we talked the stronger these feelings became. So, the problem I'm struggling with is jealousy. She's gorgeous and fun, so of course guys are always taking her out. so, while it's understood that, yes we love each other and we can't really do anything about it we both date other people. The problem for me however, is that I don't care about anyone except her. So, while I never show it. it's hard for me to not be jealous when she tells me about what a great date she went on, with some rich guy who spends loads of money on her. (Even though she doesn't care about money or anything like that at all)And I'm a rational guy. I am. I know it makes no sense to be in a relationship with her being so far away, and I know that I shouldn't be jealous because she isn't my girlfriend, but when you're in love with someone you're not rational. I don't know what I should do. Should I just try not loving her? Try not to care? Date a bunch of women hoping to find someone who makes me forget how much I love her so that I don't feel so bad every time I picture her with someone guy who's geographically convenient? Can someone help me out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2013): I would take a road trip to visit her. Then try to hold her hand. See how she responds. Love has to come from both sides before it works.
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reader, YoungLoveAdvice  +, writes (22 April 2013):
 hello...
you can try and call her on her mobile or even skyping with her..try and tell her your feelings for her theres nothing more that a girl loves then a guy expressing his feelings for her
keep in contact with her
you can try and date other women but if your truly in love with the girl it will be hard :D
hope this helps :D
good luck
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