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writes: i don't understand...i love my boyfreind to death but sometimes it seems like we have nothing in common like sumtimes we would be tallking for hours on teh phone and then the next night most of teh converstaion is us listening to each other breath. i keep wondering if he's missing his ez. Reply to this Question
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reader, Dazzerg  +, writes (21 April 2006):
 Well the problem here could be overkill on the phone conversation. I am assuming this is a long distance relationship because you dont mention going out; if it isnt then try doing something that will stimulate conversation like go to the pictures. If not then maybe try phoneing a little less regularly.
If you are concerned he is not over his ex then your best course of action would be to talk to him about it rather than let these feelings fester. Hopefully he will be able to reassure you and maybe that will take some awkwardness out of your conversations. Hope that helps, take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 April 2006): If you are talking as much as you say you are then I think the one thing that both of you seem to be not grasping is that at least one of you is not happy i.e. you.
If you talk for hours on end one night and nothing the next then perhaps you covered everything the night before.
How often do you see one another? Do you have fun when you are together?
I think you need to do some straight talking instead of not asking the question you are dreading the answer to. Ask him how he feels about you and does he want to be with you or his ex - you obviously have your reasons for saying something about the ex. Has he mentioned her a lot or is it just irrational thoughts from you?
Don't continue to make yourself miserable, get to the root of the problem and discuss it fully as you will then know for sure either way.
Life is too short to constantly be miserable. If you are not meant to be together then you should move on, but find out the facts first and see if you are worrying unnecessarily.
The other answer could be to not talk every night but every few days and then see how things go.
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