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36-40,
*una
writes:On V-day my b/f and i didn't do anything because I had to work, but he called me in the morning and sent me flowers and a card. Then the next day I went to his apartment and he told me the worst news ever. He went out with another girl. He swears up and down that they only kissed and he doesn't care about her and only wants me. So I left after an hour still crying and came over the next day to talk. I decided to stay with him, but it wouldn't be the same. Then yesterday I called him and a girl picked up. I don't know if this was the same girl or somebody else. I haven't talked to him about it yet, because I was too shocked when a girl picked up. I tried to call him back later, but he didn't pick up. What should I do? Break up with him, try to work things out, or something else?
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reader, luna +, writes (21 February 2007):
luna is verified as being by the original poster of the question Eve thank you so much for telling it like it is!!! You made me smile and gave me the courage to do just that. He will never see it coming!! thanks again
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (21 February 2007):
 You need to be strong here and keep it all together. Don't break down in front of him if it kills you. Tell him you need to speak with him (face to face), then when he least expects it... ASK HIM OUTRIGHT! "Who was the woman who picked up the phone yesterday?" (or whenever) and wait for his reply. Watch his reaction, his body language, his eyes. Listen to his explanation. He might even say it's his mom! (Incidentally, whoever he says it is... ask him does he have their number and call them to double check, THAT will scare the shit out of him if he KNOWS he's lying.) It also lets him see you're taking no more bullshit from him any more.
Depending on his answer of course will depend whether or not you decide to continue with your relationship (and it would NEED to be a good answer to do this) or leave him with your pride intact, telling him what an utter sleazeball he is!
If he has cheated on you then you're far better off without him anyway. Smile to yourself as you walk away (IF this is the case) knowing that you totally humiliated him and reduced him to a blubbering idiot when you hit him with your question then asked for her number!
Eve
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reader, Pretty and proud +, writes (21 February 2007):
 if you think that he is cheating then hes not worth your time girl! if you are 100% true and faithful to a man you deserve a man who is 110% true and faithful to you, ask him about it and if the explaination isnt good enough then break up with him. i know its easier said than done but us girls are stronger than cheaters and liars. if you want any more asvice you can mail me privately i know how you feel and it isnt easy so us girls got to stick together whether we know eachother or not x
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