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writes:Hello all I am bi-polar was diagnosed about 4 years ago. I am married with 4 great kids. Having this mental disorder has really ruined things. I have done things that looking back on I can't believe I did and really feel that I was in a haze to mention the financial damage I have done. I have a wonderful husband whom I love. I guess I just want to ask if there is ANYONE out there who has suffered with this type of mental illness???Any help will be soo appreeciated.Thanks all Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2008): I have to be honest when I posted this question. I did not think I would get so many supportive answers. I REALLY appreciate it it helps soo much. I agree that through what I learned in therapy some behavior is personality related its not all the disease. I grew up in an alcholic house hold and have a very strained sad relationship with my father. Yes I am 33 and should have moved on but I still miss that love of a father as stupid as that sounds. He lived in the household with us so the feeling of having a father physically there but never feeling loved or wanted hurts. I do realize though that I have a family of my own and need to grow up. So many things that I have done I can truthfully say are from the disease becuase I have bits and pieces of memories of things, credit cards that leave the marks of a crazy woman's spending spree. I know I will work through this its just hard and I have to toughen up.
Thanks all!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): Believing in GOD can cure this condition.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2008): I was diagnosed bi polar. But now i'm confident no such illness exist. Its a culmination of problems that baffle the brain, usually brought on by treatment from others often people close to you.
Treatment of the Heart is required not the head. This is a common misconcepion.
I don't know of any of my doctors that have experienced the condition on the 'coal face' Most of their teachings come from books.
Turning to God helped me.
Yet some say he don't exist. Now it just make's me smile when then get their manuals out and I get mine out.
Guess mine will still be around when theirs is long since gone.
Still their are good intentions in their hearts.
Better to but your trust in God than in man +
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (26 December 2008):
 Being Bi_Ploar is frightful to say the least. This condition can be more prevelant in some and less in others. There are many signs and symptoms of the Disorder. Usually thru usage of certain drugs ussedto treat Bi_POLAR along with therapy it can usually be contolled. However these things alone may not be all it takes to control the condition.
You are more able to combat being Bi_Polar when you are more well informed about the disease. Always remember to get plenty of rest, eat healthy,try avoiding situations that can possibly trigger the onset. Sometimes lifestyle changes and changes in your thought pattern also helps you to fight off the triggers.
DO NOT FEEL ASHAMED! It's not your fault that you have this disorder. It is controlled by the chemicals fluxuating in your brain. Anyone could have it and anyone can get it, some are more prone or predisposed. It can cause mental confusion, stress, low_selfesteem,fear, thoughts of suicide amongst other problems. Each episode can cause the condition to worsen. Each time you have an episode it can be mild or serious but any episode can cause long term problems. Loss of memory, short or long term can be effected. You can experience pain as a sign of the depressive part or pain if evident from medical reasons may tend to worsen during this phase. Being Manic can make you feel like you can takle the world, it can keep you going like you are on speed, then you get so wound up you can focus. If you ever crash the world can tumble down around you. You might withdraw, sleep too much. loose your appetite or have it increse. Being Manic can make you feel less need to eat because you are so speed up it makes you kinda forget you might be hungry. It can make need for sleep lessen as you are too hyper to rest. Your mind constantly is going and you have such a hard time focusing, or you might have better focus for a bit then you can put your thoughts in order.
Having a Bi_Polar Disorder can make you feel out of control to the point you might get anxious or paranoid somewhat. When you feel in control and euphoric sometimes you do things to the extreme. All of this things can be one at the time or in combination. It all depends on the person and how bad the condition is. Getting information and knowledge about Bi_Polar or (Manic Depression) the more common name is a great way to help you set the plan to get control of the disorder. Make sure that if you are placed on meds that you DON'T STOP taking them WITHOUT the doctor's ok. Attend all therapy sessions as much as possible. Follow your plan for treatment. Talk about your problem with someone you can trust. It's good to have a support system and they can often be found in family and good friends. If your husband is willing it might help to have him attend the sessions with your Doctor and Therapist. It will help him because the more knowledge he has about your problem the better prepared he will be to help you.
Try not being too hard on yourself. Handle things with care, take time for yourself everyday, Walking can help to take the stress off a bit, it's good for the other chemical's in the body that will help to ward off the triggers natuarally. Set up rules and guidelines in the matters that are causing your marital problems and let your husband take over the finances. It's easy to over the spending because it can be really hard to curb any type of activity. You just don't see the trouble alot of times til the damage is already done. Then you feel guilty and that makes you feel worse. If you have a loving husband hon, don't worry too much, and let go of your guilt, help him to understand what is going on. He is probably as confused and scared as you are.
There are alot of other things I could say but I would fill the page up. I was diagnosed as being Bi_polar in '92. I know it's a hard life but you can make it hon. Don't you give up cause God has the UPPER HAND and as long as you keep trying you have to keep the FAITH that HE WILL PROVIDE what you need to see you thru all of this. Just like HE has done for me over and over again.
I hope this helps and If I can help any further feel free to write.
MERRY CHRISTMAS!
God Bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (26 December 2008):
 I don't have your disorder, but I have a cousin who does. I may be wrong, but I understand this disorder can be treated and, if people manage to take their medications, they can regain their life and live normal lives. The difficulty sometimes lies in determining what the right dosage is.I hope your doctor is knowledgeable about the disorder and can titrate the right dosage.Also, please make sure your relatives and everyone near you understands that this isn't something YOU do. It's what your disorder makes you do. The difference is important.Maybe you can arrange the financial matters so that you can't spend all the money when you're hyperactive, or you won't do something terrible when you're in depression.I wish I could help you more. I know this is a difficult thing.I wish you the best.
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