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*epangue1988
writes:Does he like me more than a fren? Well, i did make the first move already. I invited him to go with me to movies and even go have a dinner in a hotel... Of course, i invited but then he paid for it.. We actually talked a whole lot, he shared his secrets with me about the girl he was dating and how she broke his heart... But then he said he moved on.. I gave him advices since i had gone with same situations last time. We talked about its nice being friends first to lovers etc.. After 3 invites from me, i wouldve expected him to ask me out but 2 days had passed he ddnt ask me out, and its always me who texts first.. He kept telling me during our dates that next tym were gonna do this and that... But he nevr set a date... Does it mean he dont like me? Well we got pics on our dates and posted it on facebook... Many commented that we look good together.. Etc.. But he ddnt comment anything... Will i ask him out again? Or will i just forget him? Will i text him first? What if hell forget me...
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reader, nepangue1988 +, writes (14 April 2011):
nepangue1988 is verified as being by the original poster of the question tnx for the advices ;)
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reader, aaringurl +, writes (13 April 2011):
There could be something between you guys, but whatever it is I am pretty sure that it's still budding and too young, and anything too fast or too soon might truly affect in any imaginable way.
One thing is, that simple low-toned laugh might just be a staple to him. Don't interpret his gestures too prematurely. Girl, you keep doing that, you'd end up hurt.
Will you stop asking him out? Hmm.. i'm not sure, I guess don't, but try not to the invitation, wait for him to ask you out.
Be open to any possibilities, just because he hasn't done any of the things he promised he would, doesn't mean he doesn't want to do it with you or forgot about it. The guy simply must been busy, or pretty low on cash, or is seeing someone else, We just don't know.
15 day interval between dates? Oh golly, you even counted the days, but umm.. even though it's 1 week, 2 days, 6 days, 2weeks, it doesn't really matter. Once a girl asks a guy out too often on dates, and the girl usually asks, she, for me, apparently seems "clingy" or aggressive and you might scare him off. Clingy in a sense that you appear to him as though you want to be with him really bad. He'd presume he's the only friend you've got, or that you really want to be his girlfriend and fast. He might also misinterpret you as an easy picking, and we don't want that, so be careful.
I've said it, and I'd say it again, ... cut back a little. Let him do the move, and let time do the magic. ^.^
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (12 April 2011):
 Just because he paid and your pictures are up on FB from your date doesn't mean he likes you more than a friend.
In fact on your first date, he already brought up his ex (bad move on his part) and you two talked about being friends. You're already starting off on the foot of being friends..which if you're interested in him more than a friend, then this is what you want to avoid.
I see you being the one who makes the first move on everything, but where is his effort? He has shown you absolutely none. This guy talks about dates, but they have yet to happen. My suggestion is that you back off of him, and let him plan a date, let him text/call you. If he doesn't call/text about your next date then you know that he views you as a friend.
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reader, nepangue1988 +, writes (12 April 2011):
nepangue1988 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionto aaringurl:
when we are together, we kept laughing, talking a lot, he wasn't very touchy until our 3rd date together. he is fun to be with. he told me one time that sometimes he is shy to me then he cracked a low toned laugh. does that mean he doesn't like me at all? or just as friends only? will i stop asking him out? he was planning like were gonna watch this movie etc.. but he never make any scheduled day... he just say it..
our dates are usually on intervals like after 15 days i ask him out.. is that a bit clingy already? tnx ;)
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reader, aaringurl +, writes (12 April 2011):
For me, I think you're choking him a bit. Sorry for the bluntness, but I do think so. Hmm.. maybe he feels you've become too clingy, or too attached to him and that you're building you're world around him .. men don't like that(well atleast that's what I heard). Like girls, they also need space.
The fact that he shared his secrets with you(you didn't describe how he'd do around when you're together ~.~) could possibly mean he fancies you. It could also be that he's avoiding you, because, you've been inviting him here and there, but he always ends up to be the one who pays for it.(I believe that's what guys do, not usually as kindness but because they feel they ought to; and not unless he's rich, cuz i myself would do that)He's probably pressured too. He might react this way,
You: Hey let's go out.
Him: Oh, okay (oh no.. not again)-- probably, probably, please don't get me wrong, just be open that he might be intimidated a bit.
Be sensitive. You've been asking out the guy. "YOU" .. so I suggest cut back a little. I know there's this wanting inside you to always be with him, but it's often best to keep that love gauge checked. If you'd text him, try to make it short, don't ask why he's not texting you that much or seeing you.(you're still not the guy's GF yet right? ~.~)Girl, IF he really likes you, he'd call you sooner or later and will ask you out. I'm pretty sure. His not calling now doesn't mean he doesn't like you, the guy must be prolly busy the past days.
Cut back a little, be sensitive, learn when to "atras" & "abante" , and enjoy the ride. ^.^
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reader, Jules22  +, writes (12 April 2011):
 I am in exactly the same position. I'd been round his and second time it was just us. It had been me that suggested going there. Then we had convo about how much we liked eachother he tld me he liked me so much and I always make him feel better. Following day invited me over and we were alone like the whole time but still nothing happened. And I am beginning to think he doesn't like me in that way. Sorry to go on about me but to answer your question he probably is very insure. Without doubt he likes you, but whether he wants a relationship
Is different.
My advice to you is either say it as it is to him, (tell him how much u like him) or wait for him to ask you out.
Hope this helps,
Keep us posted.
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