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anonymous
writes:There is a man i have fancied from afar for a long time. I dont know him very well, however the other night, we were both at the same bar for a party, and we hit it off, flirted all night, and ended up kissing... Thing is, i am currently in a relationship which i just dont seem to be satisfied with. The man i fancy does know this, and said he didn't want to become involved with me whilst i was in this situation (which i appreciate). Thing is, i need to sort my life out, and i dont know now whether it is worth losing everything i have with my partner (we live together) for a guy who might just be a fantasy in my head. He gave me his number, and said for me to call him if my situation changes, and that he hopes things sort themselves out. I know this was the decent thing to do, but i do wonder if he really would want to give it a go given things were different? What do i do? Do i just write this off as a fantasy situation - things may not work between us even if i do break it off with my boyfriend. Or do i stay with my boyfriend, try my best to make things work between us, rekindle the spark etc, and just pretend this crush never happend? (even though i know kissing my crush was wrong in the first place given my situation).
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reader, 48years  +, writes (28 December 2008):
 Are you engaged?
You are free. Choose your own destiny and do not tiptoe through life!
There will come a time when you absolutely should not be kissing a second man. That is not now. Stop guilting yourself out.
That's what marriage is for.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): I think the fact you're even interested in this new guy is a big warning sign that something isn't right in your current relationship. What you need to concentrate on is whether you believe the current relationship can be fixed, and if so whether you want to fix it.I was in the same situation last year and left my partner for a new love. It didn't work out with the new girl, but I don't regret leaving the first because I believe our problems were beyond repair. I'm happier being single now than I was being with her. Ask yourself if this could apply to you.Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): Sometimes when might be having something very important in our life but we just dont value it as much because we have it for long enough . amidst that if we find soemthing a little interesting, we feel like we should take the risk of leaving everything for this onething because it seems like the one i was looking for or my soulmate and crap. But always remember, there is gona be one day when you would get tired of your new thing too and that day all your guna miss is your old thing.
Your live-in bf loves you for real. and because there is no spark left,you shudnt risk it with the new guy.
you kissed your crush. ok . that was your mistake but i would suggest you just forget what happened and just try to rmemeber all the goodtimes you had with your live in boyfriend and if you really think that this new guy who u hardly know would make you more happy, you never loved your boyfriend then
my suggestion is jst forget that this thing happened and move on. try to bring back the spark in the relationship
if youd listen to me id suggest you plan a nice candle light dinner with ur boyfriend with drinks and talk to him about all the wonderful moments youve had with him. this woudl help you and him, realize that he needs to get more romantic liek you
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2008): the same thing happened to me few years ago. trust me.make thing work between u and your bf. talk to him about it.. unless your bf feels the same way u felt.. and wanna end things with u. before all that happens, stay with your bf. after u got together with someone for many years u tend to look for around for a better person. but usually that better person wouldnt last. it's just a crush. u probably like his looks but hey u dont have love for him.
i made the wrong decision few years back, now i lost both.
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