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writes: My fiance broke up with me in the end of july, we had been toghether for 5 years and engaged for a year and half would be two yrs on dec 24. At one point she broke up with me before 2 yrs ago for two months and then begged for me to come back. Now she hooked up with another guy (total looser not just said by me) she has gotten married and is knocked up. I have been a complete drunk since then. My question is how do i know if she misses me thats all i want to know? I know it dosent make things better but i want to know if she misses me like i miss her (even though i shouldn't after what she did)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 December 2006): sounds like a grim christmas for you. im sorry to hear your tale. i know exactly what you are feeling. you can deal with pain, but it's the uncertainty that kills you. you clearly aren't in contact or talking rationally to eachother so you've got to tell yourself what you want to hear and the sad truth is that she is over you. we all miss our exs, its completely normal, especially when youve been together that long. you sound like a nice guy, she probably missed you alot but now because she's got a new man and a baby on the way she has her own things to be worrying and obsessing about and they are not you. you need new people and new projects, as distractions initially and then you'll find that you actually cant be bothered to think about her anymore. it will be a relief. however gay it sounds, try to find a hobby or go on a trip. its hard to remember what you enjoy doing when all you do is get pissed but there must be something you enjoy or want to do: camping, cooking, football, even pub quiz or go karting. anything...just try! chin up. happy new year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): Please don't waste another moment of your time whittling about her. Just get out there and meet someone else. He might be a loser, she has married him, and she is pregnant, so move on. What does it matter if she does think of you, there's no good that can come of it, she is having a baby. Just try and get out there with your family and friends over the festive season and enjoy life!Take care and Merry Christmasxx
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reader, Jovial  +, writes (19 December 2006):
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Im soory for ur misfortune but things like this are part of life, u need to accept ur ex has moved on and she is trying to make a new life for herself regardless of who she hook-up with, its definitely non of ur business. Im sorry to sound rude but there just no easy way to help u forget her, even if she misses u what are u gonna do about it? Keep sulking? And delay ur progress of healing?
I understand how u feel but wondering about her missing u is not the way to go, remember curiosity killed the ………… so don’t let it kill u its not healthy for u. move on go out on dates I know the women u will meet wont be like her but its fun u owe urself that much. U thought she was the one for u, and for a moment there she thought u were the one for her too until she realized she is making the same mistake twice. Im glad she realized it bfore u guys u were married look on the bright side there is nothing painful like a divorce after investing so much into a marriage. Forget her and focus on ur life and finding someone who deserves ur love. Good luck
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reader, Jovial +, writes (19 December 2006):
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Im soory for ur misfortune but things like this are part of life, u need to accept ur ex has moved on and she is trying to make a new life for herself regardless of who she hook-up with, its definitely non of ur business. Im sorry to sound rude but there just no easy way to help u forget her, even if she misses u what are u gonna do about it? Keep sulking? And delay ur progress of healing?
I understand how u feel but wondering about her missing u is not the way to go, remember curiosity killed the ………… so don’t let it kill u its not healthy for u. move on go out on dates I know the women u will meet wont be like her but its fun u owe urself that much. U thought she was the one for u, and for a moment there she thought u were the one for her too until she realized she is making the same mistake twice. Im glad she realized it bfore u guys u were married look on the bright side there is nothing painful like a divorce after investing so much into a marriage. Forget her and focus on ur life and finding someone who deserves ur love. Good luck
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reader, I Dont Lie +, writes (19 December 2006):
 We can sit here all day and tell you how much she still misses you and make you happy, but is that going to change anything? The fact that shes not with you and with someone else will not change just by believing she still loves you. Its good to be optimistic, but in this case, youre just heading yourself for another emotional downfall! When someone leaves you, the first thing you do is pick yourself up, which is the hardest thing to do of course but it helps you to move on, but most importantly, it shows her that you've moved on and that she doesnt have a hold on you anymore!!
Look at it this way, you're only young and there is time to heal and start over again. Youve got so much time you that can still afford to find and push love away if you so wish!! Times in your hands so dont use time as an excuse to feel sad that she left. Now think about this, you said she got knocked up by this other loser guy. Take that as a compliment that she could have so much better but because of her stupidity, shes now lost you forever! Her huge lost!! Instead of wondering whether she still misses you, you should be asking yourself why you fell in love with a girl like that in the first place! In fact, have confident that youre the better person, (which like you said, everyone seems to think so) and believe that shes the one asking herself whether you still miss her. Imagine her asking herself that question everyday, play it over and over again in your head and feel good about it!! Pick yourself up like I said, stop your boozing, do something with your life, get out and TRY to have fun, and soon enough, believe you me, the sweetest joy will be the day when she sees you doing so much better and that image you have of her asking herself that question will become a reality, not like its not actually happening already!! Just hold on for a bit longer and when you finally let your wounds heal, youll be stronger than ever in situations like this. Remember, stop your drinking and get your life back on track!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2006): well its sounds as though ur finding it hard to accept that shes moved on an cnt move on urself,u probably grown apart it happens im afraid, u need to face reality darling thats shes moved on i no its hard an u never think u will get over it but u will,she probably dsnt feel the same way u do as she wouldnt ov married an hvn a baby u dnt do that if u dnt lv sum 1,ur only young u need to get out an enjoy life but 1st u may need help with the drinkin ,im sure u will meet sum 1 else in time when ur least expecting it,ur only young dnt waste ur life on wat cud ov been u need to pull urself together an b strong an if hes a tit like u say let her worry about that its not ur problem good luck
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