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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I have bee dating someone for just under a year now and the more I fall for him the more it truly pains me knowing that he has had so many sexual partners. He has not blatantly said as much, but he is gorgeous, with the 100/100 libido and I can do the "math"! My question is how do I deal with the jealousy/upset I feel about it all? He is VERY much more experienced than I am and slightly older with more partners romantically and sexually and it just irks me to know (despite being realistic about it all!) that 1) other women have claimed their love and affection for him and he for them and 2) that he has had sex 'randomly' with women...
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2009): Thanks to both of you for your replies.... He checked in with me yesterday and I said to him that although it still botehrs me a bit, I have to let it go for our sake. He is actually not the one that brings them up, but I have asked him about them and in telling me I then couldn't get them out of my head. I know that he chooses to be with me and he said he was the one that ended the relationships in the past as they were not right for him, but it still bothers me to think that they were better/more experienced etc and that he shares a "history" with them. Silly and unrealistic I know, as we all have a past (me included!), but as you both say and as I have told myself... I just need to let it go. He is all accepting of me, never asking me about my past (although he knows I have had very little experience and so has nothing to worry about there in terms of me comparing him to others), and if he can accept me as such, I need to do the same. Best of luck to both of you too!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): Hi there
I was with a guy that was much older then man and had much more experience in the bedroom department then I did!! He told me that he had alot of exes and that drove me mad, I started to not trust him and our relationship eventually broke down!! Just say to him you dont want him bringing up all these girls he has been with!!
And just remember that the past is the past and there's a reason he's with you and not them!!
Wish I had....
goodluck xx
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