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I've started to fall for my best friends husband, she died over a year ago and I feel really bad!!

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Question - (6 February 2007) 4 Answers - (Newest, 6 February 2007)
A female United States age 41-50, *aintgirl writes:

my best]t friend passed away a year and a half ago.

her husband and i have become friends, mainly because their daughter is my godchild anyway.

one nite recently we found ourselves kissing and stuff .

worse of all i kinda like him, im starting to see why she loved him

any way

am i nuts....he was married to my best friend.

she must be turning over in her grave...

but he's a good guy.

i dont know

i wish he was just a guy,,,,

what do i do???

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A female reader, AngelEyes420 United States +, writes (6 February 2007):

Maybe spending time with eachother helps you both feel closer to her. You probably have a deep and spiritual relationship. I understand why you may feel guilty, but I think you are giving your her a gift. Who knows, maybe your freind had something to do with your attraction. I say, don't feel guilty too much longer.

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A male reader, Blue Rat United Kingdom +, writes (6 February 2007):

Your friend is dead and gone, but you're alive. You can't bring her back, so live your own life. If you make each other happy, and it's what you want, then be together. It's been 18 months as you said, so there's no question of indecent haste or callous selfishness.

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A female reader, cd206 United Kingdom +, writes (6 February 2007):

cd206 agony auntDo you think your friend wanted her husband to be single for his whole life? Do you think she wanted you to stay forever single? I'm guessing that if she was a good friend and wife then the answer was no. You've been through an enormous trauma together and sometimes things like this bind people together in inexplicable ways. I think everyone will understand if you were to get together (maybe some resistance from the daughter?) I think if you want it then go for it. Your friend has shown you that life is all too short to miss opportunities. You're not doing anything wrong.


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A female reader, Pretty and proud United Kingdom +, writes (6 February 2007):

Pretty and proud agony auntThe answer is clear...

do you think your friend who loved both of you would want you to feel like this or to be together. To make her daughter your godchhild she must trust you and i know if i died id want my man to be with someone i trust.

hope i helped xx

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